Black Relationships : Friendship or Love?

[LadyJ]

Love is a very challenging and difficult subject to define and discuss.
We have talk shows that exploit people who act out in the name of love (Jerry Springer) and some of the greatest works of art that were created to express love (the Taj Mahal).
On one hand I agree that people need to learn to love uncontionally and be willing to except love from others. On the other hand (warning, I may rack up more hands than the typical human has), people should realize when or how to love. You can love someone but if that person takes advantage of that love or disrespects or hurts you in the name of love, you may need to find other avenues to love that person. Loving someone from afar, even unconditionally, can still be considered love. Conversely, people should make attempts to except love and not hold up the barrier that may empede love's progress. People shouldn't let what a man or woman did 15 years ago interfere with what the current love of your life will or can do for you.
People should be open and willing to give and recieve love!

ONE LOVE

 

[Queenie]

otuya, I like your poetry!

 

[Sanaiah25]

i believe that the only types of love that really last are of the unconditional type. God's love for us is meant to last...our parent's love for us is meant to last...and so on. However, i can love a man unconditionally while still having certain expectations, such as not to be beaten, misued, lied to nor neglected. Even unconditional love has it's expectations.

 

[A007]

Hello Destee Fam...long time no post (for me). I am not quite back into the swing of things but I will be shortly.

Sanaiah, I humbly submit that those "expectations" that you have not to be beaten and so on are CONDITIONS of you continuing to love that man. That's why it is unrealistic to expect to give or recieve unconditional love when we speak about romantic love. Romantic love is one of the most conditional things in the world....and until we realize that we are going to keep bumping our respective heads on that wall of conditions. Once we know it is conditioned upon us meeting certain "expectations" then we can own those expectations and not combat them with the "you are supposed to love me" decree which (in case you haven't noticed) is followed closely by divorce.

 

[Destee]

i believe that the only types of love that really last are of the unconditional type. God's love for us is meant to last...our parent's love for us is meant to last...and so on. However, i can love a man unconditionally while still having certain expectations, such as not to be beaten, misued, lied to nor neglected. Even unconditional love has it's expectations.

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Much Love and Peace.



Destee