Black men and women make the best fiends. But suppose one of them wants more or is thinking about maybe exploring the possibility of taking things to another levvel? There are all kinds of fears stopping us from doing that. We might ask: Suppose it doesn't work out. Will that also be the end of our friendship? Suppose he has me pegged as "just a friend" and can't imagine seeing me any other way. Will he think I'm bugging? It can be really hard to risk what we've come to value in order to tread unknown waters. But it can be done and has been done. How do you do it? What led you to go it? How did you overcome your fears? Was it a disaster? Was the person different as a lover than they were as a friend? Talk to me, family.