Yes brotha Sun Ship, there is a deep historical aspect to this issue. I am perhaps too young to take it as deep as it can go, but I can see a few things.
I think part of the reason for the double standard when it comes to Black and white stay at home men is because Black women have always had to work outside the home. While white women yearn for the economic and personal independence of Black women Black women yearn for the luxury white women have historically enjoyed. Thus while the white woman values a man who will keep the home front while she goes out to actualize her dreams, the Black woman values a man who will "sit her down," so to speak. While white women are eager to pull Black women into the women's lib movement as bodies, this disparity of agenda is dismissed and suppressed as a divisive factor. Yet when Black women get involved in the white woman's agenda without honestly addressing our own historical needs there can only be confusion and a backlash from younger generations.
The same mutual envy flows between Black and white men. When I was growing up many brothas complained that they had to work twice as hard and have three times the education and skills as their white counterparts who seemed to just ooze through with far less to offer. The resistance of white supremacists to Affirmative Action made it impossible for that program to bring about the desired atmosphere of equality.
When the confused desirs of Black and white men met with the confused desirs of Black and white women the natural result is more confusion.
I think part of the reason for the double standard when it comes to Black and white stay at home men is because Black women have always had to work outside the home. While white women yearn for the economic and personal independence of Black women Black women yearn for the luxury white women have historically enjoyed. Thus while the white woman values a man who will keep the home front while she goes out to actualize her dreams, the Black woman values a man who will "sit her down," so to speak. While white women are eager to pull Black women into the women's lib movement as bodies, this disparity of agenda is dismissed and suppressed as a divisive factor. Yet when Black women get involved in the white woman's agenda without honestly addressing our own historical needs there can only be confusion and a backlash from younger generations.
The same mutual envy flows between Black and white men. When I was growing up many brothas complained that they had to work twice as hard and have three times the education and skills as their white counterparts who seemed to just ooze through with far less to offer. The resistance of white supremacists to Affirmative Action made it impossible for that program to bring about the desired atmosphere of equality.
When the confused desirs of Black and white men met with the confused desirs of Black and white women the natural result is more confusion.