Brothas, Would This Hurt?

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  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    My aunt was telling me about her three month old grandson. She said he has to get pretty cuz he can't get no uglier. It reminded me of when I was a teenager and there was this boy in our neighborhood who although he didn't look all that bad to me, but all the girls said he was ugly. I mean no one could mention his name without smaddy saying he was ugly. It seemed to bounce off him without any visible effect. But I wonder.

    Makes me wonder does this hurt or is it a badge of honor? I know men are allowed to be a bit more, how shall I say, rough around the edges than women but does it do something to the self esteem of a young boy when girls call him ugly?

    I know a guy who weighs about three hundred pounds and looks like the last thought I'd have just before committing suicide yet the girls flock around him like he's Dr. J or sumptin. So how can a man be ugly and sexy at the same ti?
     
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    you can be ugly and sexy at the same time ....just think the sexy pretty cute man
    you see pose a cold heart show ugly ways and talk dirty and u see this no so good looking
    guy with a beautiful heart warm smile and words so dearing ....well u have it
    they both pose both

    It would never bother me about how one see me because i always say the beauty is
    in the eye of the beholder.....
     
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    MenNefer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Is "Seal" Handsome

    Evidently Heidi Klum thinks so.

    Biggie said he was "Black and ugly as ever" However, he said he stays Gucci down to the socks , rings and watch filled with rocks ....and his jam did knock:)
     
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    i can't lie as a child I never thought I was the finest thing, lol. I was a fairly cute kid imo (certainly wasn't ugly, lol), but I couldn't start pulling til I was in highschool. Highschool is also when females started telling me I was cute.....but yeah it didn't bother me much as a kid, because my focus was on little kid things. But I couldn't imagine not looking like me....yeah that sounded conceded, but oh well, lol....................I guess if I thought I was ugly (in the eyes of many beholders) that I'd have to work that much harder on my game........
     
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    I'm bound to think that when your own family calls you negative names from young, it will have an effect on self-esteem and ones view of the social world.

    How can an 'ugly' man be attractive?
    Charisma
    Money
    Known Sexual Prowress

    to name a few... ;)
     
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    Da Street So'ja Banned MEMBER

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    lol


    you are so bad river

    :haha:
     
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    Da Street So'ja Banned MEMBER

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    so


    there is hope for my ugly ***

    lol
     
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    Zulile Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    :lol: DSS, you dont need to do anything but sit there and look purdy :love:
     
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    It dosn't always have to be about looks. You can be in love with a persons mind and how they express themselves to you can be sexy. I'd rather have a man who speaks with his heart than with his body.
     
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    ^^a lot of women will tell you that, but the same can't be said for men........I can't front, I can't be with someone who I can't find physically attractive. You could have the kindest soul and blow my mind mentally, but if I look at your face and cringe it ain't happenin, lol..........Men just happen to be more visual......
     
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