Black Men : Brothers - Can You Discuss Your Collective Failures? - (Only Brothers Post Please)

[Enki]

Men don't get pregnant and water (natural force) cannot flow where the dike is sealed.

In this IMMORAL society, rather than admit that their culture is wrong, they are inclined to blame the man. (which is like blaming water for the flood when YOU opened the floodgates)

So if I understand you correctly, our culture is not perfect. I agree with that and we have some serious problems to deal with.

If the latter part is saying that the man shouldn't share any of the blame then I have to disagree. it's the same as blaming the woman for everything.

Where is the responsibility, pride, and self control that we as men always brag about? Are they hollow words just to shore up our false pride, or do we really mean them?

It's one glaring point that is being overlooked, and that is the 25+ kids that is being slighted, yes slighted because it's a known fact it's better to raise a child with two parents instead of one.

Peace!

 

[CosmicMessenger]

If the latter part is saying that the man shouldn't share any of the blame then I have to disagree. it's the same as blaming the woman for everything.

Of course, water shares the blame for the flood but as civilized people, we should have enough sense to know to keep the dikes plugged.

When we allow the dikes to be opened and water floods the town, we shouldn't blame it on the water.

We should blame ourselves for not keeping the dikes plugged.

 

[Enki]

Of course, water shares the blame for the flood but as civilized people, we should have enough sense to know to keep the dikes plugged.

When we allow the dikes to be opened and water floods the town, we shouldn't blame it on the water.

We should blame ourselves for not keeping the dikes plugged.

Just as I figured, it's the woman's fault because the man is weak.

This is the way these kind of threads always turn out....blame the woman, give the man a pass.

A sista believes, and have faith in a brutha, and when he turns bad, it's her fault.

A sista don't believe and have faith in a brutha, because she has been shown the light, it's her fault for not giving a brutha a chance and is pre-judging him.

I've grown so tired of sistas having to be responsible for whatever wrong the brutha does. And it's so bad, that some of them have bought into this lie that it's all of their fault.

But I can see why, the black woman has been taking care of everyone throughout history.

As long as we fail to place equal blame then we will get no where, the scorn we give the man is like a slap on the wrist, and he's told to go and sin no more.

But when it comes to chiding the sista...we go hard in da paint.

Peace!

 

[CosmicMessenger]

Just as I figured, it's the woman's fault...

No, it's SOCIETY'S fault.

I suggest you go back and read it again.

 

[CosmicMessenger]

Just as I figured, it's the woman's fault because the man is weak.

Not because the man is "weak", but the male sex drive...like water, is a FORCE of NATURE that will be there regardless and if it is to be directed in a way that is useful to mankind, then there must be laws to CONTROL the flow of the sex drive(i.e no fornicating) just like the flow of water is controlled by sealing the dike.