Im sorry i was just typing away as the answers i wanted answered..
how will i know i have it? i cant really answer that because i dont know
Steps to get it? I guessi the steps im taking now, like i said i just have some many misunderstandings and i need to understand those questions that i asked in my mind
OK...thanks for asking and thanks for sharing!
I can certainly see and appreciate your journey yet it may be important to answer that second question for yourself as you continue on.
I've heard it said: "if you don't know where your going, your sure to get there".
You don't know where your going so you won't know when you have arrived.
Seems you have answered most of your own questions and maybe you don't see it now....cause you have not defined your destination..or taken full ownership of it.
You say "better" would be "moving on"...Ok..."moving on" from what to where is where you may want to focus on some. Those answers may help you understand the cards you are currently holding and will provide some clues of which way you want to go next.
M.E.