Black Relationships : Please HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  1. DestinyLove222

    DestinyLove222 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    My friend(a male) called me last night and told me that he couldn't talk to me anymore because his girlfriend said he couldn't. His girlfriend has cheated on him twice and he has forgiven her both times. What should I do?
     
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    DestinyLove222 ... Hello and Welcome!

    My advice would be to respect your friend's request. Doing so will grow in you a beautiful thing, the ability to accept the boundaries that others set, when it comes to their own selves.

    The fact that his girlfriend has cheated on him really has nothing to do with his request to you, but i understand your mentioning it.

    If he is really your friend, seeing that you respect his wishes, will only show him how much of a friend he really has in you.

    Good Luck Sister.

    :heart:

    Destee

    ps ... i've never understood how someone calls, to say they don't wanna talk anymore. :)
     
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    Hello my sister you must understand what you represent . First you are his freind and a woman. Remember she trying to eliminate the competition and anybody close to him. You must understand she messed up twice.Therefore she got a lot of work to do. Meaning she has to monopolize his time and his mind to keep him in check. Give him some space but let him know as a freind you will always be there for him now and when she decides to cheat again you feel me.
     
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    hello sistah the thing to do is respect the wishies and thoughts
    as a friend this best and more safe to add friendship is a wonderful thing so keep what you two have surely he will return
    to talk let him know you will always be there as a friend but allow them to jell and renew there relationship she know her wrong and trying to build or maybe she afraid of you taking him away
    honor what he said and continue moving sistah you two are friends not lovers in most cases male & female friendship always end due to the mate not feeling good about it so let it go ....
    that's what you do .
     
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    I can add no more than what the first three was already said...because a cheater...by any other name is still...a cheater, go on with your life as you have, and if/or when he should need your ear...you'll be there for him. good luck !!
     
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    that is whack! no way should she be able to choose who his friends are, especially if it is strictly platonic, and u were friends BEFORE they met. no i don't agree with that at all. then when she disappears, he will want your ear again. naw.......
     
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    I'm wit Des...he CALLED to tell you he DIDNT wanna talk :confused: uhhh ok
    Sista its obvious that the matter is out of your hands...respect his wishes as only a TRUE friend can and pray he knows what hes getting into. Just because you stop talking to him doesnt mean u stop caring...as long as he knows that...you can go in peace.
     
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    Thank you all

    I thank you all for your advice. I appreciate it. If anyone has anything else to say about my issue please post and help me out
     
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    If he's a grown man he has to make a descion. If he thinks his girlfriend that sheats on him is more valuable to him than you, there is nothing you can do about that. He has some issues. My best friend is a woman, if my girllfriend said I can't talk to her anymore...I'd be minus a girlfriend.
     
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    most of all sistah go with your own mental mind
    thoughts your feelings and your emotions on it
    and look deep as a friend and weave out the best
    that will make both pleased ya self and the friend
    no one can judge what u feel or feelings on it .....
    if happen to me i may take it differently but i think
    as i said above is how to accept it and handle it
    sometime we all depart at some point in life nothing
    is forever remember that friendship don't stop here
    peace sistah
     
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