Black Relationships : Marriage for the Mixed-Race (NOT Mixed-Race Marriage)

[Full Speed]

Or maybe not. Did you mean this literally as it pertains to you? Or is it just subconscious brother.

Are you currently in Africa or do you have intentions of going there to live?


Are you unwilling to answer the questions related to how Black people are supposed to believe about the various issues I posed?

 

[Full Speed]

WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT THE OPINION OF STRANGERS ARE CONCERNING YOUR PERSONAL LIFE CHOICES????????????? This is a serious question, not rhetorical, I am just curious. I realize you are young but you must have realized by now that nothing you do in life will please everyone. No one elses OPINION will determine what is RIGHT for YOU.

Is marriage between a mixed person and someone who is white basically the same as a mixed marriage and therefore to be avoided?

That depends entirely upon WHO you are trying to please concerning YOUR life decisions.


Personally, I can't imagine why anyone would be concerned about what the general population thinks about their personal life choices. Are you really interested in enslaving yourself to the opinion of others?

 

[StefiA]

As I said in an earlier post I've got no intention of enslaving myself to anyone....
But, before you go into anything its useful in my opinion to know all the possible things that result from that - not that knowing those things will necessarily change your choice...
Now just by being who I am my choice is not an obvious one - as in if I was indeed white and I married someone white there wouldn't be any other considerations...
The same would be true if I was all black and married a black man...
But as a mixed-race girl there are other considerations...
Would I be too white for his family?...
Would I be too black for his family?... and so on
For instance in the possible future I gave to cherryblossom...
Lets say I move from London to LA at the end of next year as is possible, and lets say I meet a black guy over there - we date, get engaged, get married... now if I love the guy I wouldn't be put off by any potential grief that I'll get from other people, but it would be useful to know what the possible problems we might encounter would be... as in would his family approve or would it make his life difficult with them or at his work - would we be looked upon by most people as a normal couple or as something deviant - all of course made rather more difficult by my appearance - as in pretty much white.

 

[MS234]

Listen!

Are you currently in Africa or do you have intentions of going there to live?


Are you unwilling to answer the questions related to how Black people are supposed to believe about the various issues I posed?

You see "Africa" as a "place". As long as you do, you will shield yourself from the truth.

As far as answering questions, you have no concern about the greater good for Black People. You're content because you're a "FREE MAN".

 

[MS234]

@Stefia

You have to do what comes naturally to you. Be who you are. Discern yourself with "history's" truimphs and failures. You don't have to feel like you have a heavy load to carry. Be you. People are going to be a-holes regardless. If you show love the love, will come back. If you show hate the hate comes back. It's that simple. I can't tell you about growing up with a black and white parent. But I can tell you about learning to understand you.

Asking questions are great. But asking the question of your innerself is greater. Go with what you know best. There are good and bad on both sides of the "races". If you are trusting of yourself you will find people you can trust. And that's all that matters in the long run. That you are able to live you life, so YOU can get most out of it.

Cut down on the drama and simplify things. (Just a general statement, not directed to you per se.)