Single Black Mothers : Single Black Mothers - Don't Believe the Hype - Hold Your Head High!

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  1. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

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    Peace and Blessings Sisters,

    I am so fed up with all of this ugly, low-down talk about single black mothers.

    It's appalling to me. I can hardly believe it. Especially considering the sources it is coming from.

    Sisters ... don't believe the hype. I'm almost frozen by it. It's unthinkable. It's very sad.

    Listening to some black folk talking on the Internet, one would be led to believe that it has always been this way ... black men hating on black women ... but it's not always been this way. It is not all black men! It's not even always been this way on the Internet ... this is new ... and it may be that it's only on the Internet ... for i've never heard a black man talk so low-down and ugly about black mothers anywhere but on the Internet ... i've never seen, heard, or witnessed this in person ... only on the Internet.

    Anyway ... i've fought hard to keep this plague away from destee.com ... but it creeps in every now and again ... and ... it's sickening to me ... a call to action ... a call to fight ... so ... here i am ... ready to fight.

    Sisters Sisters Sisters ... i'm willing to fight for your self-esteem, your well being, your positive thoughts of yourself, your determination to keep moving forward, your survival ... against these grim odds ... for the children you are raising, their survival, depends on you! I am so ready to fight!

    Today i was thinking about buying singleblackmother.com ... so i went to see if it was available ... and there are sex ads there. Sexual advertisements. That's what comes up on the site when you visit singleblackmother.com. In fact, i was delivered a couple of different pages when i went there (see below). Both sexually oriented advertisements. I guess that's no surprise huh, since that's all we are, some sex starved animals unable to contain ourselves, unable to close our legs, which is why we have all these babies by ourselves ... yeah ... i know ... no surprise.

    So it made me wonder ... what is on ... singlewhitemother.com ... and let's not stop there, let's check out ... singleblackfather.com ... and ... singlewhitefather.com ... you know what i found at those URLs ... a google "oops" page ... saying nothing to be found here!

    None of them had anything on it! I guess there aren't any of those ... or at least none to be talked about, no sluts and whores in those groups ... nope ... only the lowly, single black mother ... that wretched sex crazed jezebel animal that she is!

    That's what they want us to believe, and they're really pushing it.

    But young Sisters please know ... you are not those things ... even if you're raising babies alone!

    You've not done anything others have not done, you're just judged much more harshly.

    You ... single black mother ... are shouldering the greatest of responsibilities with the fewest resources.

    You are doing the impossible, with nothing, like the long line before you ... so remain forever encouraged!

    It's not gonna be easy ... but hold your head high ... and keep you and the babies safe.

    I will be speaking more on this topic ... much much more!

    I Love You!

    :heart:

    Destee

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  2. Destee

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    Single Black Mothers ... if you don't hold your head high through adversity ... the babies will not know how.

    Show them how ... :weights:

    :heart:

    Destee
     
  3. Angela22

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    Thnx u, Destee. :D I don't like all the nasty talk about single black mommas either; they are, after all, OUR MOMS. People need to show more respect, but that's so hard to find these days, especially when it's towards the black woman.
     
  4. Kadijah

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    And the proof of the pudding is that while 70% of black babies are born to single black mothers, a whooping 60% of white babies are born to single white mothers. Yet, and yet...." wretched sex crazed jezebel animal" on the beautiful Shaniqua's page, and "Ooops?" on Becky's? :11200:

    Yea, somebody's pushing that foul stereotype and wants us to believe it, like "the white man"..... and a whole lot of insecure ("if I make her feel like she ain't nuthin', she'll have to settle for me!"), swallowed the propaganda of their inferiority, "white man's got yo' mind" bruthas on Des... er, uh, the internet.
     
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    You and others still ignore the volumes of data on the topic. An anomaly here and there, does not a trend make. If you refuse to deal with the facts, you will continue to have this thrown up in your faces.

    The facts ARE that the overwhelming in this position, don't do well. Thus, defending the act and action is counter productive. It isn't hype. It's fact




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    Single Black Mothers - Don't Believe the Hype - Hold Your Head High! Thank for holding it all together doing the work of 2 people.


     
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    What are you talking about??! :huh: I already CORRECTED Destee when I pointed out that 60% of white babies are born to single white mothers. 6 out of 10 white people who are born being raised by single white mothers is not an "anomaly." It's the NORM. (Sometimes you know you talk foolish. :()

    Quit trying to steal Destee's thunder! She ALREADY noted the "lack of resources" of the single black mother. Now here you come barging all up in heah acting like you saying something brand new! Scheesh!

    Oh! My bad. You were talking about single WHITE mothers! In that case, I fully understand, although in my own defense, I assumed everyone already knew that. :10500:But you're right, of course. Little Becky does, indeed, have a hard row to hoe.... not as hard as the beautiful Shaniqua (gotta deal with that 'pesky' racism, ya know ;) ), but certainly harder than her "father goes to work, mom stays home and raises 2.3 kids" white counterpart.

    pssssst! Only 20% of American families fit that description according to the 2010 census. 80% of American families consist of other types of family groupings and since Becky's kids makes up 60% of all new white people, well, you know..... ;)

     
  8. shaka64

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    Excellent Post and I look forward hearing what the women have to say.

    I have three daughters one had a baby at 19 and the other two had babies at 17. They are 19 21 and 28 now. The 28 year old has two daughters her oldest son died. . None are with the babies fathers and the baby girl has a child with a white boy who also is not around
    . The oldest has been living on her own for 9 years. She has been a stripper for the last 8 years. She now has a nine to five and is doing well. The other two live with me. I found out the 21 year old was pregnant when I took her for a check up. It was taking a long time and when she came out she was looking crazy and was crying. She also was on her phone. She handed me the phone and her mom said she was pregnant. I stood up and hugged her and took her home. We discussed options but she wanted to keep the baby. We agreed and started making preparations to bring a baby in the house. Two weeks later she came to me and said her 17 year old sister was pregnant. I almost passed out. I went to her room and said what the f u @%*? She started crying and saying I am sorry. They know how to get to me so I hugged her and discussed her options. This was her senior year in high school. She wanted to keep her baby. She finished high school and so did her sister and both are about to go to college together. We supported them and constantly let them know they can rebound from this but made it perfectly clear get pregnant again and you got to go. Oh yea the wife and I have the babies for their first year in college and we are home schooling them. My wife did not take it as calmly as I did she had her moments where she let everyone know how pissed off she was. She wanted to jump on them a couple of times. She threatened to stomp their ***** as soon as they dropped the babies. I gave them an ear full every now and then. She was in the delivery room with both of them and cut the cord. I was in the lobby with a glass of E&J brandy.
     
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    Excellently composed Destee. I find the responsibility for singledom to be on the man. Now that I am married, it is evident that women frequently push men away (or just me?) but men mustn't allow a woman to push him too far; for this world is filled with danger and at the end of the day, when a man is not present a woman is all the more vulnerable.

    Great research Queen!
     
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    I take my hat off to these sisters who are willing to keep their dignity and not lower their standards for any man. We all know that our sisters have it rough and a lot of them suffer in silence and accept the status quo just because...

    When I see my daughters watching "Basketball Wives", and looking for to that kind of entertainment - it only makes shake my head and ask myself if that's what the image of black women has come to?

    Destee, this is one of the main reasons why I like your site... the subject matter always get my blood flowing which prompts me to write even though I wasn't planning on doing so.

    So now I have a subject for my next blog. Thanks, keep it coming.
     
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