Fellas, I would like to ask you a few questions that may be a bit personal. This thread is meant to offer us men a chance to express their core beliefs regarding women and to offer the ladies a chance to inquire about those beliefs to be enlightened and a bit more empowered to be better partners in black relationships.
All I ask is that the dialogue is honest, respectful, and as loving as possible. I think we can all agree that we all want black love to be better and held in higher regard. Here we go.
1 - Name three qualities that a woman must possess if he is interested in dating you and why those qualities are important to you.
2 - What three qualities in a woman would cause you to reject the idea of dating him?
3 - Name three important things you expect to happen in a relationship (marital hopes not included) and why they are important.
4 - Name two ways you can tell a woman is a real woman and how those two things tie into your belief of what a real woman is.
5 - What is your belief about relationships and money? Where did you learn that belief?
6 - What is your belief about sex in relationships? Where did you learn that belief?
7 - What is your idea of a good relationship? Where did you learn that idea?
8 - What is your idea of a good marriage? Where did you learn that idea?
9 - Under what conditions in a relationship would you expect marriage to become an upcoming reality?
10 - What two negative traits would you consider overlooking for the outweighing positive traits or working with a sista to overcome? Why?
11 - What two negative traits do you possess that you want a woman to be able to acept or work with you to overcome? Why?
Finally...
12 - Name two things a woman can do in a relationship and in a marriage to make you feel completely secure in them.
Brothas, I know that your answers will be interesting and I look forward to us giving much insight to our sisters.
1. She must have a strong sense of self security. An insecure female comes with a lot of issues and drama. She must have a moral code. ( Know GOD, etc. I'm not into anything goes babe ) She must be able to cook. If she cant feed herself or me, she is no more than a dependent or spendthrift. She has a have a sense of humor. Especially about herself. Been with a female that couldnt laugh. It was unnerving. She must have both common sense and decency. This should be self explanatory.
2. Skanky-read: loud, ignorant, no class, etc and proud of it. Stubborn about it. Substance abuse!
3. She has to care about me. Honesty. Give me a reason to care about her
4. Her honesty and her moral code
5. We both should have some. In this economy, that may be tough. But she cant be lazy/triffling. Mom
6. I prefer hot and heavy. Myself over the years ;- p
7. When I start planning my life with her in mind. Little to no drama. Fun. I learned this from my family and life experiences
8. When we start planning our lives with each other in mind. Little to no drama. Fun. See #7
9. When I cant see my future without her
10. Foot in mouth disease and being bad with money. But only if they have shown a willingness to admit they are wrong and follow sound advice.
11. I cant iron to save my life. I will drop my clothes and shoes anywhere and expect them to be there when I go back looking for them. I know. Mom couldnt beat it out of me
12. Inspire me to be better than I am for their sake. Make me proud. Cook like granny