- Feb 9, 2001
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MrBlak said:I like how I am told to have more perspective when I bring in PART of my views on the way blacks communicate and fixate on these ideas....but when every black person has tunnel vision and says the same old lines word for word and acts like there is no other way to raise kids successfully...they are just being real......and I am the closed minded one.
Sorry for not holding the "black" opinion...not that any of you know my whole opinion. You have just seen my anger at the tunnel vision black folks get some times.
MrBlak, the point where you and I disagree is when you suggested that people who are expressing a different view than yours were taking "pride" in the way they were raised if spanking was involved. I'm certainly not suggesting that there may not be other ways to raise a child because that would be ridiculous. Your opinion is certainly welcomed and I for one, respect it, just don't agree with it. I don't recall reading that you have a child yet but I have and as much as I may want to sit here and say that I never spanked her when she was growing up, I can't because there were times when I honestly believed it was necessary. But that doesn't mean that I didn't attempt to explore other options either before I disciplined her. Like most people, I have a certain set of values and beliefs that I won't compromise on nor tolerate disrespect and when a child has the benefit of knowing the difference which mine did, then I believe that the punishment must fit the infraction. But that's just my opinion and single voice of experience.
Queenie