Black Parenting : I don't want my kids to believe in Father Christmas

[Liberty]

a lie is an untruth. telling someone something is true when it's not...is a lie. just like, telling your wife you're going to play pool with the fellas, when you're really going to get busy with the ladies, is an untruth...a lie. and telling your children that a fairytale is real,instead of a fairytale, is a lie...regardless to how you label it. fortunately, i do not have to lie to my children, for them to be happy. maybe that's selfish of me, but i'd rather my children know the truth, from day one...than to find out, later, that i've been lying to them.

selfish? really?

I agree wholeheartedly. it is so not selfish.

How can you build trust in a relationship when you have told a series of elaborate lies for a decade, and then all of a sudden you say, "Psyche yo' mind!"

Cruel....

Some people feel comfortable with lying, re-writing History, etc. I never did.

It wore me down. My son asked so many questions. The last straw was when I told him to make a list of what he wanted for Christmas so we could mail it to Santa.

Instead of the normal toys advertised on TV, on the top of his list he had "springs for his shoes" and "suction cups". I asked what that was all about and found out that it was some ACME stuff he had seen on the Warner Bros Cartoons. He thought he would be able to scale walls with this stuff.

I tried to talk him out of it. He was stubborn. I even told him he needed to choose stuff they had at ToysRUs. He informed me that Santa could make stuff in his workshop. That did it for me... I told him it was all a lie.

 

[SouthsideIrish]

Bunch of garbage up in here, up in here.

 

[carbonite]

Well, I don't see anything wrong with it. I was raised on the Santa Claus myth like everyone else I grew up with. None of us are scared mentally or confused about life or who we are. I think people often times interject too much politics into such harmless things. Of course it's silly but what lasting and definitive harm is done to children for believing in Santa Claus? I respect the belief of celebrating Christmas minus all the excessive commercialism that has taken over the real meaning of the holiday. As I said, all the kids I grew up with celebrated Christmas and the Santa thing and we all outgrew it without any damage to our racial and political psyche.

 

[SouthsideIrish]

Amen

 

[Lrae]

The truth is it is a seasonal celebration of LIFE that was around long before St Nick or Jesus! Zep Tepi, when the light first emerged from the primordial abyss, was now, during the time of Saturn, thus the red. It is a time to share success, repent for failures, show love and venerate your ancestors. The pine tree represents everlasting life and each light represents an ankhstar (ancestor) and they get sustenance from the offerings left out for them in veneration on this day of new life, the gifts remind us that we are all kings. The only real thing we know about December 25 is that it ends the winter sols test (solstice) and pass or not the sun starts moving again after a 3 day rest....everyday we will gain a minute of light, worth celebrating indeed! Unfortunately the commercialization and purposeful deception tied to the season is distracting from the truth, but not a reason to deny a child the joy of the truth and in the process build a tradition that gives life to your ancestors. " He whose name is spoken lives!"

"Don't avoid what you don't understand...make it make sense!"