Black Parenting : Don't make me come back there!

[Isaiah]

I never beat the crap out of my child but a little trash talking never hurt! At least, not in my opinion. In fact, done at the optimum time and done well, it can be quite effective. It requires skill that needs to be mastered though and you can't be weak at heart, especially when the kid is larger than you are. Sometimes you just gotta stand up and say hey, here it is...take it or leave it!

Queenie

Whaaa??? Queenie talkin' trash??? Nope, I refuse to believe it!!!!(smile!)

Seriously though, Queenie, Black parents wonder why our children talk so much stuff all the time, and I wonder where they got THAT from?*LOL!* My grandmother talked so much stuff to me she was in my head when she wasn't even there... You best believe its effective!!!

Peace!
Isaiah

 

[Queenie]

My daddy was the BEST at talking trash but the scarier part was he could back it up too! :flamet: You may have thought about trying something but after second thoughts (usually after remembering what he said he would do) Hmmm..you quickly came to your RIGHT mind! Pops was no joke. Moms didn't talk too much...I think in another life she taught Bruce Lee a few of his famous moves! Believe me, she was effective too!

Queenie (a survivor of the Master of "trash talk")

 

[mahoganyqueen]

The best one my momma said was if you call the police on me I'll be one the other line with the belt. i still believe she would have been on the other line too.

 

[MrBlak]

The things black people are proud of .. .......

*SMH*

I'm out.


Blak

 

[Queenie]

I don't agree that anyone is expressing pride in the way we were disciplined or communicated to MrBlak and it's obvious you're taking this to heart. Whatever our parents did...rightly or wrongly, depending on the individual's point of view, we are still here today, on the internet, demonstrating that we survived it and are no worse for wear because of it. Many of us are high achievers, intelligent and articulate human beings who know our worth and have good self-esteem. We have become good parents because we remember the values and strong morals that our parents instilled in us at an early age. We are up-to-date on current events, foreign affairs, politics, economics, educated, and many of us are gainfully employed or self-employed, spiritually guided and even still, our mothers and fathers probably talked a lot of trash to us when we were young and whooped our butts when they felt we needed it.

We're not describing our parents as abusive people even though they made us cry every once in a while. They weren't abusive in the sense that the majority society describes it today. Our parents were working class, grassroots people and wanted the BEST for their children. They struggled and worked hard, often making just enough to barely put a meal on our table but my brother and I never thought of ourselves as being poor. They fought battles for us and their people and worked their fingers to the bone to raise us the best way they could in a hostile situation. No, it may not be "pride" as you meant it but whatever you want to call it, it darn sure helped to form me into the great woman that I think I am today and for that I'm definitely grateful to them!

So, yeah, I'm one of those Black people....Queenie