Ok so in all my posts I have not taken a position for or against this blueprint, or for or against polygamy.
If this blueprint serves as a model for you and yours, more power to you.
As an older, single black man, I had to put a lot if thinking into this, weighing every opinion.
I know that if you are not a muslim, you have studied the life of the prophet Muhammad and all the other prophets including Isa.
As I have often read many attacks on prophet Muhammad for his marriage to Aisha at such a young age, I am often conflicted because I work with and mentor teens and it's my young women who take to me the most. And like Aisha, they have become my best learners. And I'm talking about young sisters who are Muslimah and know their history and cultural traditions.
But, here is the problem for me. I have difficulty treating them equally without favoring one over the other. They actually compete with each other for my attention and "help".
And this is where I think some of the points against polygamy are valid? How can one possibly treat four wives equally, especially if they are students as well?
That's why I say more power to you if such an arrangement works for you and yours.
If I was about 25 years younger it's a blueprint I would seriously consider but knowing me I most likely would have the same problem I mentioned.
I relate to my students as if they are my own daughters and much of my work involves more mentoring and self esteem building than anything else. But in regards to teaching, I learn from them as well. I'm not an autocrat. Peace!
