kente417mojo said:
I always wonder why there are so many single parent households in the black communties? A topic in another forum prompted me to start this thread. Are black men the problem? Are black women the problem? Is there a lack of family values amongst black people nowadays? What is you opinion of this issue?
This may sound funny, but bare with me. I think the reason why there are so many single parent homes is because of Single parent homes...lQQkin..
Did that make sense???..lol
O.K. when I lQQk at my friends, married and single, and there has been an issue of one cheating, the one cheating came from a single parent home.
Not to say that ALL single parent homes fail in raising children, but I think there is a connection that can't be ignored. A male not having a father figure in the home, or worse, having one who disrespects his mother, can't possibly know how to treat his mate. How can that male know how to respect a woman if he has never seen that example of a man. The same goes for a woman. If she grew up seeing her mother being treated bad by men, how can she learn to have respect for herself? How can either of them carry a relationship when all the examples of relationships have been bad ones?
When I separated, I blamed my husband for not being a man, and taking care of his responsibilities. It hit me one day, how could I be mad at him when he was screwed basically from the point of birth. His father didn't care about him, or support him in any way. On top of that his father had 2 other son in which he did care for, just think of how that must have made him feel...smh
He also had a stepfather who cheated on his mom alot and she allowed it. He brought beer and cancer sticks (cigarettes) in the house and let him drink and smoke...smh....
I'm angry at all the men that messed up his life, and me and my childrens lives.
That's why if you have a son or a daughter, watch what yo do and say. If you know you don't have anything positive to offer that child, then let them be. It's a start, maybe one day we can reverse this.
Peace
Nita