Black Relationships : Thoughts of Self

[cherryblossom]

I've been thinking and wondering about how we think of outselves as people. And are those thoughts accurate? We might think of ourselves in ways that are unrealistic. That statement swings both ways. Some people tell me that I'm a really good writer. I don't think so however. I think I'm average at best. What are these people seeing that I am not seeing? And is it possible that they see more about me that I'm not aware of?

I have a friend who always claims that it doesn't matter what other people think about her, as long as she thinks positive of herself. But is that blindness? Could we think of ourselves so highly that we are unaware of the person that we really portray. Is it possible that we don't see ourselves as worthy but in actuality we are great. I've been wondering about that for sometime. Is the world's preception of you as important, more important, or less important of what you think about yourself?

Some people think they are generous and giving when the reality is that they are selfish. And when comfronted with that reality they deny it. Are they living in some kind of fantasy world? As a man, I know that I've judged people on their actions. I've judged them on how they treat others and how they treat themselves. But does my opinion really matter? Does anyone's opinion of another really matter?

Well, yes, an "opinion" and a "judgement" of someone are related to each other.

However, when we form an "opinion/judgement" of someone AND when others form "opinions/judgements" of us, we should ask ourselves if it is intended to HELP that person or ourselves or is it intended to HURT that person or ourselves.

Some others have "judged" you to be a good writer. They have been encouraging to you to further develop your craft and talent. However, it is YOU who doubts the potential they see in you. ---So, is that "judgement" of you wrong? Is it meant to HURT you or to HELP you?

 

[Angela22]

I've been thinking and wondering about how we think of outselves as people. And are those thoughts accurate? We might think of ourselves in ways that are unrealistic. That statement swings both ways. Some people tell me that I'm a really good writer. I don't think so however. I think I'm average at best. What are these people seeing that I am not seeing? And is it possible that they see more about me that I'm not aware of? I have a friend who always claims that it doesn't matter what other people think about her, as long as she thinks positive of herself. But is that blindness? Could we think of ourselves so highly that we are unaware of the person that we really portray. Is it possible that we don't see ourselves as worthy but in actuality we are great. I've been wondering about that for sometime. Is the world's preception of you as important, more important, or less important of what you think about yourself? Some people think they are generous and giving when the reality is that they are selfish. And when comfronted with that reality they deny it. Are they living in some kind of fantasy world? As a man, I know that I've judged people on their actions. I've judged them on how they treat others and how they treat themselves. But does my opinion really matter? Does anyone's opinion of another really matter?

Humility goes a long way; what the world thinks of you doesn't really matter so much, but that doesn't mean you should think the world of yourself.

To be humble, is to recognize that while you may have greatness about you, you will not let the thought of it consume you to conceitedness; to let that happen would be to let the greatness begin to fade and ultimately disappear, because there's no greatness in arrogance.

You can know you're great in whatever field you are in and still be humble, but keep your mind clear as to how great and never think you exceed your own abilities. And you can feel unworthy, but actually be better than thought, but so long as a person doesn't feel utterly worthless, their humble thoughts of themselves might help them to doing even better than they started.

And yes, people do live in their own delusion of themselves when they believe they are better than they actually are. It is a set up for a great fall, because no man or woman should think too highly of their own selves.

 

[Mikha'el]

I've been thinking and wondering about how we think of outselves as people. And are those thoughts accurate? We might think of ourselves in ways that are unrealistic. That statement swings both ways. Some people tell me that I'm a really good writer. I don't think so however. I think I'm average at best. What are these people seeing that I am not seeing? And is it possible that they see more about me that I'm not aware of? I have a friend who always claims that it doesn't matter what other people think about her, as long as she thinks positive of herself. But is that blindness? Could we think of ourselves so highly that we are unaware of the person that we really portray. Is it possible that we don't see ourselves as worthy but in actuality we are great. I've been wondering about that for sometime. Is the world's preception of you as important, more important, or less important of what you think about yourself? Some people think they are generous and giving when the reality is that they are selfish. And when comfronted with that reality they deny it. Are they living in some kind of fantasy world? As a man, I know that I've judged people on their actions. I've judged them on how they treat others and how they treat themselves. But does my opinion really matter? Does anyone's opinion of another really matter?

Most of my thoughts of myself are accurate. I've long had a very good understanding of self. There's a fine line btw belief in self and being delusional. It is possible to be unaware of who we showcase ourselves to be. For me the world's perception is less important.