Black Men : Why baby mama drama is ultimately your own fault.

[CosmicMessenger]

And honestly, it IS the truth. The responsibility does belong to us if we have it. Regardless of her contributions or if she stars the drama, ultimately it boils down to this:

1 - YOU CHOSE HER! You could have just left her alone in the first place.
2 - You didn't discern that there were factors in her character that would cause drama.
3 - You laid down with her before REALLY getting to know her.
4 - You didn't handle the situation with responsibility.

Obviously this is not about assigning blame, brothers, but think about it. If you have baby mamma drama right now, how many times have you thought within yourself, "if I only handled it differently," or "I wish I never got involved with her," etc. We need to make much better choices about our dealings with sisters.

It goes back to SLAVERY, my brother.

For more information, just click on the following link:

http://nationalhumanitiescenter.org/pds/maai/enslavement/text6/masterslavesexualabuse.pdf

Sometimes you need to look at black peoples ROOTS to understand the reason why they act like they do today.

 

[CosmicMessenger]

1 - YOU CHOSE HER! You could have just left her alone in the first place.

Brothers in the hood are taught to be "pimps", "playas", "husslas", etc.

Few brothas in the hood are taught to get their Ph.D

2 - You didn't discern that there were factors in her character that would cause drama.

How many sistas do you remember in the hood who DIDN'T have "factors in their characters that would cause drama"???

Were they in the MAJORITY or in the MINORITY?

3 - You laid down with her before REALLY getting to know her.

That's what being a "playa" is all about!

As a teenager, didn't you ever have a black elder tell you to "get all you can while you're young"???

I certainly had older black men tell ME that!

Obviously this is not about assigning blame, brothers, but think about it. If you have baby mamma drama right now, how many times have you thought within yourself, "if I only handled it differently," or "I wish I never got involved with her," etc. We need to make much better choices about our dealings with sisters.

Brothas act how THEY were taught to act and sistas act how THEY were taught to act.

Baby daddy mama drama is a MANIFESTATION of what is taught in the hood.

 

[_NortheastGroover_]

His mistake was not dumping her the FIRST time she mouthed off or went against him.

It should have never gotten to that point.

So men should break up or divorce their women as soon as a argument happens???

 

[CosmicMessenger]

So men should break up or divorce their women as soon as a argument happens???

That would be better than going to jail.

 

[_NortheastGroover_]

That would be better than going to jail.

Relationships are not that simple. I wouldn't know what to think of a person who up n run at the first sign of trouble.