My friends and I (I am male they are female) have been going around and around about the choices women make in men and trying to find one good question to ask on the first date or before granting the first date. I think we have it. Ask the brother.... " What are your 2 biggest WEAKNESSES in a relationship?" Now this is a great question because it will weed out the players, pimps, and conceited men because they will say " I don't have any" Then you tell them ..." Well you don't have me!!" Because all of us have weaknesses. It will also weed out the B.S.ers because they will say some bull that they heard on doctor Phil that sounds canned like men are from mars and I am not doing what works for me, etc. That leaves only 2 kinds of men. The thinker who will honestly say.."I haven't really thought about it. Let me get back to you." This won't be alot of men because our egos won't let us show that we don't know something (especially while trying to impress a woman). Or the enlightened who has experienced and learned from his past relationships and is trying to get better who will say " I was too controlling, too immature, not ready for commitment, etc." The weaknesses are not a bad thing unless they are doing nothing to change them. It has worked to ward off plenty of bad dates for my female friends. And, has worked to find a good man for one of my friends. What do yall think?