Black Relationships : An honest question for my sisters - what things about a man says that he can be used

[NyneElementz]

I want to know what things about a man says that he can be used.

This isn't about a generalization about sisters at all. Some year and a half ago, I was told the reason I was chosen was because I was a prime target to be used. I have tried for a year to understand that so I can stop being a target for those who want to use me. I don't want to become bitter and still have hopes of finding a better marriage than my first. Any honest insights would be helpful.

 

[MsInterpret]

*sigh* Stop dating the women you date...You get used cause you choose the wrong women to date...
Normally when you always seem to get used it's because you keep choosing to date the wrong people. It's sounds like you unknowingly put yourself in front of the firing squad.
Usually we tend to want to point the finger at others for our poor relationships...but most of the time we constantly find ourselves in the wrong relationship is because we are attracted to wrong people.
This isn't to say you are going out and intentionally looking for people to use you, but you date women who have similar traits...and you aren't fully aware of what those traits are because you are blinded by something else...what I don't know...that's for you to figure out on your own, because you know yourself better then anyone else...but the similar traits seem to be the type who like to take advantage and use.
Anyone can be used by anyone at any given time.

 

[Thelma Jackson-Smith]

I want to know what things about a man says that he can be used.

This isn't about a generalization about sisters at all. Some year and a half ago, I was told the reason I was chosen was because I was a prime target to be used. I have tried for a year to understand that so I can stop being a target for those who want to use me. I don't want to become bitter and still have hopes of finding a better marriage than my first. Any honest insights would be helpful.

What are you focused on the MOST when dating a woman?

 

[NyneElementz]

What are you focused on the MOST when dating a woman?

I seek out her character to see if there is anything to build a strong friendship or relationship with.

 

[MsInterpret]

I seek out her character to see if there is anything to build a strong friendship or relationship with.

Obviously you have poor choice in character...Thus the reason for you being used.