I want to know what things about a man says that he can be used. This isn't about a generalization about sisters at all. Some year and a half ago, I was told the reason I was chosen was because I was a prime target to be used. I have tried for a year to understand that so I can stop being a target for those who want to use me. I don't want to become bitter and still have hopes of finding a better marriage than my first. Any honest insights would be helpful.