Riada said:Having lighter skin as a female is DEFINITELYan asset when dealing with MANY Black men and many other men of color. It simply gives the lighter woman many more options than darker females if all other things are just about equal. This is something a lot of Black folks just can't or won't openly admit. You may consider light skin on a female a liability, but IMO you're in the minority of Black males. On the other hand, many women of all races and groups prefer darker males.
I agree.
Regarding white people asserting themselves as a deity, it doesn't matter to me whether someone asserts themselves as my deity, but it does matters to me whether I believe it or not. I CAN control the latter with my mind. I got EGO, Brotha. LOL!!! Black people don't have to believe in white superiority, or that whites have all the power.
I agree with this as well. But as you stated above about me, you are one Black person that is in the minority, with regards to how you've absorbed white superiority. As am I.
For many of us these days, that's a choice and another type of whining. I think many Blacks WANT to believe it because it provides an excuse for stalling, for not coming together, for not committing to solve problems, for not excelling.
Very true.
Many, not all, Black women who are trying to reduce their butt size do it because it's difficult, even more expensive, to find clothes to fit if your body does not match the measurements used in the fashion industry. For ex. if you have a size 36 bust and size hips, it's virtually impossible in certain stylish clothing lines to find a dress or suit that you can get into that will drape properly.
Only because the clothes that we wear in the West, are oftentimes not made by or for Black people.
Some Black women try to reduce their butts or keep them hidden because they don't like the cat-calls from men on the street. They simply don't want their butts to be the object of leering men.
That's the misconception, though; men are going to leer, regardless of your "big booty". Men just like to look at women, period.
Should chop off their breasts, simply because men look at them? I've seen women try to cover their chests up as they walk by the presence of a man/men.
This is an oxy-moron; the very thing(s) that makes you beautiful to us, are the very things you wish to get rid of.
We say what we like, and you conceal or get rid of it; we say what we don't like, and you try to enhance that even more.
How can we win?
Granted there are some Black women who do want to have more of a white woman's stereotypical body, though many of them don't even have that.
They want various aspects of the the White woman, not just her body. Long, stringy (and often BLONDE) hair, blue/green contacts, etc. There's more to looking like a white woman, than just having a flat butt.
As far as Black women finding and using their power, I don't think many Black men are going to like that. I see everyday what happens now when African women try to assert themselves. The majority of African men can't take it. If and when Black women really start doing this worldwide, many Black men are going to be left in the dust.
I agree, but it's just as you stated just a moment ago:
For many of us these days, that's a choice and another type of whining. I think many Blacks WANT to believe it because it provides an excuse for stalling, for not coming together, for not committing to solve problems, for not excelling.
Consider how Africa has been changed in the past 500 years, and by whom. Consider what religion many Nigerians that you mentioned previously are. What educational system they are taught.
That's why it's not as easy to ignore the White Deity. For many of us, it's engrained, and not so much a choice.
But that's why I as one Black man in particular am always calling for Black women's empowerment; I do not intend to be left in the dust. In fact, I plan to reap the benefits right along with you.
I know where we as a people came from, and where we have the potential to go.
IMO, you need to stop always trying to see a Sista's behavior in a negative light.
Why did this discussion need to turn into a critique of my perspective? I could do the very same for you......
IMO, you need to learn to find validity in the things that certain people say, even if you do not necessarily agree.
If I had such a negative view of what Black women do and say, how then could I have agreed with you uncontestingly several times in this thread alone?
There could be very valid reasons why she does what she does.
Perhaps, but that does not mean that the results of those actions are always the best for all parties involved.
Black people are not friendly to me either most of the time. That doesn't bother me because I believe that if I needed something from them, most of them would do their best to help me. That has been my experience. On the other hand, whites are often friendly, but I know that's usually fake.
I commented on this statement when you reiterated it in that other thread. I won't do it here, not only because I've already done it, but also because it's more relevant in context there than it is here.
PEACE