It’s interesting how all of our problems are all connected. I agree with Brother Pan’s assertion in the thread dealing with the History Of Marriage, Brother PanAfrica said, “The disintegration of the black family and the stagnation of black progress go hand in hand. The latter will not improve until the former is restored.” I believe unless we can reconnect Black men to purpose, which is to be an integral part of the circle and the family unit, he will continue to disintegrate. It’s like the subtitle of Brother Haki Madhubuti’s book Black Men, the subtitle ask a question in reference to Black men, basically is he “Obsolete, Single, Dangerous?”
The white patriarchs know they can permanently marginalize the Black community if they devalue the purpose of Black manhood and demonize it. Black men need to stop Gangsta’ Rappin’ about and embracing the glory of their demise and Black women need to reject the parasitical and paternal relationships they have with white European and American culture (even in the corporate world). Remember Sisters, while that white man is patting you on your backside saying, “you’re doing a darn good job” they’re trying to break a integral part of your backbone, which is the Black man. The rules in a chauvinistic patriarchal system are, “the one who has the seed is more important and dominant than the one who has the egg.” Don’t believe everything that feminist white woman tells you, “she knows who put the butter on her bread and she has not totally disowned her patriarchal white counterpart, if at all” The white man is controlling the Black woman’s womb, just like his own woman’s womb, through her mind. And because it’s not natural for Black women to be subjugated by another man, she is also disintegrating, for as the Black man is being displaced there is no male entity replacing him; and there will not be any this time. Even young Black women are slowing becoming more and more violent and anti-social because of the absence of productive and wise Black men at home and in their overall reality, not to even talk about the growing lesbianism among young Black women.
Also we have to remove the artificial concepts of class and caste in our community. Sister talk about “marrying down”, this is something borrowed from soap opera’s and fairy tales. I know plumbers and carpenters who make more than some post-grads and are better read than many college graduates. When Tavis Smiley had his so-called “state of the Black nation” convention no one explored Black men in the trades, outside of small mention about Trade Unions. You can’t be free if you need another man to build your nation.
The concepts of family and home, are more than just a Black man (or woman) having a education, good job and paying the bills, these are sacred paradigms that men respond to and are imbued with essence civility and passivity that were the original constructs of femininity and motherhood. If you remove the competitiveness from between Black men and women and the home, passivity is not the condescending definition it historically has been, but it becomes a balance to a seemingly very competitive patriarchal world. I believe this is the balance Black men are to often lacking. Historically, men usually explore serene and fertile environments to build on, these type of environs motivate the male psyche to settle down as he metaphysically reflects on the nature of a (original) woman’s serene and fertile nature. The Black woman is the spiritual catalyst for higher civilization. No matter how hard a man is, no sane and spiritually divined Black man chooses to build in environments that are hostile, for there is no balance to his masculinity.
