My nephews have been taught that if they get a girl pregnant and the child is proven to be theirs, they must be ready to support that child, no matter what, because that child is their "blood" AND our blood. Their father has told them that for every spoonful of food that they might get ready to put in their mouths, they 'd better be ready to give the child half of it.
It's so odd listening or reading about some AA men talking about child support or listening to child support war stories from AA men or women because I compare that with the way the vast majority of African men I've observed(and some other)men see their children. When the marriage breaks up, not only do most of these African men support their children, they will try to "kidnap" or take the child from the mother. I had two AA girlfriends who went through this years ago and have not seen their children for over a decade. The children are in Africa and doing fine. The women hear about the children through other relatives, but initially the women were devastated and could not believe that a Black man would actually steal his child.
Now I know that many AA men DO support their children, but for other AA men who want to reclaim the best of their African heritage, IMO, copying the way most African men regard their duty to their children would be a good start.
It's so odd listening or reading about some AA men talking about child support or listening to child support war stories from AA men or women because I compare that with the way the vast majority of African men I've observed(and some other)men see their children. When the marriage breaks up, not only do most of these African men support their children, they will try to "kidnap" or take the child from the mother. I had two AA girlfriends who went through this years ago and have not seen their children for over a decade. The children are in Africa and doing fine. The women hear about the children through other relatives, but initially the women were devastated and could not believe that a Black man would actually steal his child.
Now I know that many AA men DO support their children, but for other AA men who want to reclaim the best of their African heritage, IMO, copying the way most African men regard their duty to their children would be a good start.