- Jan 20, 2015
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One of my sisters continually refer to her grandchildren by skin shade. For example if she talking about James, she might say James, he's dark brown, did such and such. And Sheila who's light skinned think she's cute cause she's light skinned with long hair. Really. I've listened to this type of talk from her for years. Her grandchildren are older now and I was talking to her recently as she began to tell me the shade of color of each grandchild.
I started to wonder if she's saying these things to them or treating them differently according to skin shade.
She never claimed to be Black consciousness, which is why I hadn't mentioned it earlier.
This one day she's talking about her dark skin grand and light skin grand. I couldn't take it anymore. I said to her WHY ARE YOU IDENTIFYING YOUR GRANDCHILDREN BY SKIN SHADE, THATS COLORISM.
Her response was they are my grandchildren etc, etc. then she asked "what's colorism? I struggled with how to explain this to an unconscious Black woman. So I made it simple and told her it's what you're doing identifying your grands by skin shade. You've mentioned how the light skin grand receives special attention. She became angry, and said she's doesn't do that. She said she didn't want to talk about that, and she had to go do something. We hung up,
We talk often. She hasn't talked about her grandchildren since that conversation.
We have so many unconscious Blacks in our communities, who never think Black. Who never think at all. Who hate the color of their skin to the point of being shamed.
I started to wonder if she's saying these things to them or treating them differently according to skin shade.
She never claimed to be Black consciousness, which is why I hadn't mentioned it earlier.
This one day she's talking about her dark skin grand and light skin grand. I couldn't take it anymore. I said to her WHY ARE YOU IDENTIFYING YOUR GRANDCHILDREN BY SKIN SHADE, THATS COLORISM.
Her response was they are my grandchildren etc, etc. then she asked "what's colorism? I struggled with how to explain this to an unconscious Black woman. So I made it simple and told her it's what you're doing identifying your grands by skin shade. You've mentioned how the light skin grand receives special attention. She became angry, and said she's doesn't do that. She said she didn't want to talk about that, and she had to go do something. We hung up,
We talk often. She hasn't talked about her grandchildren since that conversation.
We have so many unconscious Blacks in our communities, who never think Black. Who never think at all. Who hate the color of their skin to the point of being shamed.