Monetary said:
I've had the same experiences that you speak of. I found out what worked for me...as Isaiah had stated...and worked that when interacting with Sistas. I believe the ladies on this site are giving you some advice as well.
I learned a long time ago, that the worst "VICE", is "adVICE".
However, at this point in time, I have more good experiences than bad ones with Sistas . I've had too many great experiences where Sistas who didn't even know me have gone to bat for me because they knew how things worked and knew that our people were getting screwed. They made a conscious decision to help their people in any way they could. I give much respect to Sistas and Brothas who do that because they know how things work and we don't. For example, taking care of health issues, applying for unemployment compensation, dealing with the cable company, applying for a job, etc. Of course, I'm speaking of situations of a broader perspective here.
Yes, you are, and you are also speaking about YOUR situations, which have no bearing on mine. Though I'm truly glad that SOMEbody his having good real-world experiences with Sisters.
Look at it this way. For all the Sistas you can't get along with, just chalk it up to them not being the one for you...and keep it moving. Every woman you meet will not be attracted to you no matter how funny you are, how sexy you are, how intelligent you are, or whatever other attractive attributes you may have.
You continue to miss the point, just as ISAIAH and others do, despite my best efforts to explain it to you.......
It's not about "who's right for me". I'm not necessarily trying to find a wife from the lot of women that I meet everyday. Are all those sisters that you mention, who are helping you with "taking care of health issues, applying for unemployment compensation, dealing with the cable company, applying for a job, etc."........Are they "right for you"? Do you even factor that in, when you are taking part in these interactions?
If not, then why should I, when just the opposite happens for me? When it comes to every one of those situations that you named, most of the Sisters that I interact with are calling on me for assistance with them, when nothing to offer in return.
I call this exploitation.
And not all Sistas are going to treat you right or leave you alone if they're not attracted to you. I know some Sistas who say that if a man gives her his money she'll take it. Of course, she doesn't have to...but she will. So, it's up to you to protect yourself and not let someone like that take advantage of you. Just like the Sistas who asked you for favors. If you feel that they are taking advantage of you, then stop doing favors for them. Do what's best for you and don't let anyone take advantage of you.
Peace
Of course, but that remedy is still putting the carriage before the horse. The issue still remains, that Black people (men and women) still see each other only as means to an end, and not someone to be cherished and valued.
You don't have to find me "sexy", in order to appreciate me as a man and a human being.
Do you understand this?
PEACE
