Black People : Fix'n OUR Black Family/Community

[anAfrican]

Let's move on to discuss what's happening in the Black community and what can be done and who is willing to do whatever they can to address it in positive and constructive ways.

you just keep on doin that, sister queen; bringing these topics/considerations that are always on point ... but, sadly, sometimes get lost in the shuffle. (doing something with one's anger; stupid vs ignorant; victims of mind control; the hard headed sisters thread; the family centric threads ... oooh! just bunches!!) and then there is this one! (ok, so it is a thread that you started "by proxy". <grin> )

there are at least two big issues that i am needing to come to grips with:

1) dysfunctional family as the result of a father "growing up" in a badly broken home, and passing those "lessons learned" on down. (yes, i do have three .. (well five; one each from previous relationships) ... sisters. none married; one with a bachelor's of arts; one with children - all passing on the "fatherless household" mess and what that does to the children.) not real sure where to turn with this one (nope! "professional support" is just another facet of the "support" that has us where we are today.), but i'm really wanting to lean toward finding a group of intelligent Black Folk ....

2) this danged crack mess!! don't go pointing a finger at the crack-heads; they are as trapped in the mess as you are - their mess is just a little bit uglier (maybe ... hmmm ... "abusive relationships" might be a tad bit worse), and more visible than "your's"; it's the 9to5, and all that goes with it, that creates not only the conditions that would lead folks to be open to such a "career/lifestyle alternative", but that requires that there be this "class of people" to keep others in line. once that despair leaves them open to this danged drug, the drug just keeps them stuck! we have an awful lot of Black energy/resources lost out there!! how about "adopt a crack house" or "adopt a crack-head" programs to see if we can figure out how to get them back? WE MUST STOP TURNING OUR NOSES UP AT OUR OWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


these are two issues that i MUST figure out how to address: dad, at 85, still has that same "chip on his shoulder" that his father "gifted" him with. ("why/where did he go?" "why did he abandon me?" "wasn't i good enough?!" "i'll show you!!") and that is where he raised our family! it hurts, man. he is still constantly on all of our backs because "we aren't good enough" ... but that is nothing new; he's always been on our backs about that ... in fact, that is all that he ever taught us!! and just look at us now! but i need some help to "Redeem His Name", and Our Family (he never says "our" or "we"; it's ALWAYS "my" ... as he sits in "his room" (the living room) watching "his" tv). and all of us have been bitten by that danged mess! (it's always hard to start reaching out for help in these sorts of areas, because the pain/anger always comes through too loud and clear ...)

i'd rather put this in the "(Fixing the) Black Family Forum", but there are only "Black Parenting", "Sisters", "Brothers", "Teens" and "Relationships" forums ... kinda like this society; bust the family down in to individual pieces and twist them apart ...

 

[Carl Septien]

you just keep on doin that, sister queen; bringing these topics/considerations that are always on point ... but, sadly, sometimes get lost in the shuffle. (doing something with one's anger; stupid vs ignorant; victims of mind control; the hard headed sisters thread; the family centric threads ... oooh! just bunches!!) and then there is this one! (ok, so it is a thread that you started "by proxy". <grin> )

there are at least two big issues that i am needing to come to grips with:

1) dysfunctional family as the result of a father "growing up" in a badly broken home, and passing those "lessons learned" on down. (yes, i do have three .. (well five; one each from previous relationships) ... sisters. none married; one with a bachelor's of arts; one with children - all passing on the "fatherless household" mess and what that does to the children.) not real sure where to turn with this one (nope! "professional support" is just another facet of the "support" that has us where we are today.), but i'm really wanting to lean toward finding a group of intelligent Black Folk ....

2) this danged crack mess!! don't go pointing a finger at the crack-heads; they are as trapped in the mess as you are - their mess is just a little bit uglier (maybe ... hmmm ... "abusive relationships" might be a tad bit worse), and more visible than "your's"; it's the 9to5, and all that goes with it, that creates not only the conditions that would lead folks to be open to such a "career/lifestyle alternative", but that requires that there be this "class of people" to keep others in line. once that despair leaves them open to this danged drug, the drug just keeps them stuck! we have an awful lot of Black energy/resources lost out there!! how about "adopt a crack house" or "adopt a crack-head" programs to see if we can figure out how to get them back? WE MUST STOP TURNING OUR NOSES UP AT OUR OWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


these are two issues that i MUST figure out how to address: dad, at 85, still has that same "chip on his shoulder" that his father "gifted" him with. ("why/where did he go?" "why did he abandon me?" "wasn't i good enough?!" "i'll show you!!") and that is where he raised our family! it hurts, man. he is still constantly on all of our backs because "we aren't good enough" ... but that is nothing new; he's always been on our backs about that ... in fact, that is all that he ever taught us!! and just look at us now! but i need some help to "Redeem His Name", and Our Family (he never says "our" or "we"; it's ALWAYS "my" ... as he sits in "his room" (the living room) watching "his" tv). and all of us have been bitten by that danged mess! (it's always hard to start reaching out for help in these sorts of areas, because the pain/anger always comes through too loud and clear ...)

i'd rather put this in the "(Fixing the) Black Family Forum", but there are only "Black Parenting", "Sisters", "Brothers", "Teens" and "Relationships" forums ... kinda like this society; bust the family down in to individual pieces and twist them apart ...

Africus is the italic Aryan word describing the south west wind.

BY calling yourself African you submit to the Aryans.

 

[Omowale Jabali]

WOW!

Africus is the italic Aryan word describing the south west wind.

BY calling yourself African you submit to the Aryans.

The ONE person who responded to this post was later banned.

 

[cherryblossom]

As for fixing, I wish there could be some way to reach the parents of our youth on a larger scale. In order to break the cycles, we need to reach the ones who are supposed to be the supporters, champions, and nurturers of their children.

But, the problem is getting their attention and participation. The very parents who never take an active interest in their child's education are usually the ones who are in need of breaking the dysfunctional, generational cycles.

So, if they can't be reached through the educational system, how can they be reached in their communities where they live?

And how can this be done w/o insulting them in their parenting techniques/skills?