Blaklioness said:***Group stature is low primarily because we are too permissive and tolerant of how others treat us
how do they directly address the issues that MsMocha mentioned...the physical features business that is so pervasive in the Black community?...***
***Again...I don't want to rehash my definition at this point of 'blackness', as I've already established that on more than a few occasions. We can call a rose a tulip if we choose, but the traits will remain those of a rose....I don't think I need to say more....***
This is one of those "Does the chicken or egg come first" situations. Yes, I agree, we tolerate too much crap BUT one reason we tolerate it is because our stature is low and the stature is low because we tolerate it.
Another big reason for the crap is because we don't support our own. For ex., I wonder how many of us sent the money to support the King Center the other day. I didn't. I do support my own in many other instances though.
Look, we're having problems tolerating each other, let alone supporting each other.
The "physical features" issue that MissMocha raised is tough because so few people will admit that they prefer people with light skin or caucasian features.
Even in a place like this where everyone is anonymous, I don't believe people will admit it because they know people will call them names.
But I look at the skin shade and features of the women who the men here say are beautiful. That's very telling. I also look at the wives and girlfriends of wealthy and influential Black men. That's extremely telling because those men can pick and choose who they want and the vast majority choose light to white.
I could be wrong but I don't believe that light skin and the features are such biggies when Black women select mates.