panafrica said:I also believe this is more common than women will admit to because no one wants to be be lectured (I told you so) when their poor choices lands them in a tough situation.
Reading this I began to wonder....Is it ALWAYS a "poor choice" for a woman to chose to have a child without the commitment of or having the man a part of the child's life:?:
I think this practice, choosing to have a child without marriage or committed relationship probably began with woman who were financially stable and able to assure the child's needs would be meant. They even had identified the male role-models who would be available to support the child.
In essence I'm thinking or knowing, choosing to be a "single mother" is NOT always a "poor choice".
Generally in their 30s and early 40s, financially secure and independent, these women are taking charge of their reproductive lives in a way that would have been unimaginable for their own mothers. And by most accounts, they’re doing rather well. In fact, one recently published study out of Israel suggests SMCs actually have a significantly higher quality of life, when looking at psychological, physical, social and cultural components, than their married counterparts.
http://www.todaysparent.com/lifeasparent/article.jsp?content=20060106_170722_5384&page=1
ummmm....I'm also thinking and wondering what if any studies have been done for children conceived via in vitro fertilization where the mother went to a sperm bank. What has the impact of that knowledge been like for the child[ren] conceived in this fashion?
I think this practice began amongst the 'upper middle class' group and folks in the 'lower class' followed suit. The statistics outlining the negative consequences are focused on what happens for those surviving in economic poverty..i.e 'lower class' when children are raised in 'single parent' homes. Even with that being the case, for all of us who were raised or raised children without the benefit of a stable two-parent family structure, can point to the benefits or positive outcomes.
M.E.