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  1. recognize that.
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  2. 5 Jun 2013​
    Here is the problem:

    In the modern sense of the word "relationship", there is a phantom hyphenated prefix that is almost always left out. The prefix is "sexual-". And in a sexual-relationship, if the sex is removed, the relationship is hollowed out.

    The thing is.. folks have rationalized their sexual relationships into more than what they are. It's really just sex. And all the other stuff is to facilitate the sex. And if you don't think so, just stop the sex and see what happens to the so-called "relationship".

    Truth is.. the word relationship doesn't mean anything without some context. And if sex is the main point, then sex is the key to holding it together.

    And the same goes for other types of relationships. There are men and women whose relationship is based on children. And so the phantom hyphenated prefix for their relationship is "Parental". and that's why you'll hear folks saying, "I stayed for the kids". Take away those kids, and that relationship falls apart.

    And there are two-sided relationships where one side is based on one thing.. and the other side.. another thing. Sex and Money are a familiar pair. He's with her for sex... she's with him for money.. or vice versa. His money dries up and she's audi.. her sex dries up and he's audi.. that is.. unless they have some other "relationship" between them that is strong enough to keep them together.. like a Parental-relationship.. or a Professional-relationship.. or an emotional-relationship.. in which case, they may each find other ways to satisfy the needs that are no longer being met through their relationship.

    For example.. If she needs tenderness and you are no longer tender, she will either pout or find some way to compensate. like hating you.. or leaving you.. or hurtin you the way she hurts... or maybe she'll recognize that most guys are tender in the begining.. and so she'll continually search for beginnings.. where he's tender and attentive.. and when that phase passes, she bounces on to the next one.. trading her sex for his temporary tenderness.

    If this dude in the OP is just with her for sex, then yeah, he should be pissed that he's no longer getting sex. But it also matters why she is with him.. and if her needs are being met. he's in it for sex, so he evaluates the entire relationship through that sexual lense.. but that is really only part of the picture. He has to know whats on the other side of that coin so he can manage the constant reconciliation that must take place between the mis-matched basis of their relationship.

    http://destee.com/index.php?threads...night-with-white-boy.76385/page-7#post-805684
  3. Jul 8, 2012

    Peace Omowalejabali.. cherryblossom, Kemetstry, Destee and every body else..

    I think Omowalejabali's post above makes a key point. Not being willing to do what it takes to protect our communities is a gargantuan failure. it is, in my opinion.. the primary failure. And yes, I'm familiar with the reasons why.. but "why" doesn't bring that mother back her son.. or that daughter back her dignity.. or that son back from drug addiction. This failure to protect our people is a great source of division and confusion within our culture in America.

    The jails are full of folks that have murdered or assaulted others over money.. or property.. or reputation. Black men have proven that they are not afraid of jail.. not even afraid of death. So, if we are going to die.. and we are going to be jailed.. why not let it be for noble reasons? We're going to jail for being the dope dealer.. when we should be going to jail for breaking his legs.. or blowing up his car.. with all the guns.. and lack of police protection in the hood.. the forces for righteousness should be handling their business.. That church on the corner should have an Armory in the basement.. and those streets should be safe with or without the police. Folks doing wrong should be disappearing.. The fact that that is not happening is a tremendous failure.. and is responsible for what I call "the respect-drain" in black communities.

    Folks often ask why some women like thugs.. believe it or not.. this is part of it.. a person willing to go against the status quo for what he wants.. is more attractive than a man that allows the law to press him into social impotence. Those dudes protect their communities.. they protect their territories.. and they do it despite the law.. now.. even though they protecting those areas just so they can do wrong.. they are still exuding the strength that men in western society are supposed to exude.

    If this was a black-only nation.. their would be a civil war between the underworld dudes and everybody else..

    Remember this scene between these brothers in the Mack:



    This is one of the internal struggles that we have to confront.. it's the same issue that comes up whenever a black person is shot by the cops.. and one side says "shame on the cops".. and the other side says, "shame on the black man".. and both sides are right.. and both things need to be dealt with.. but if we are going to be a group.. and share a fate.. we have to deal with our internal issues first.. we have to come together.. and that may have to be a violent process.. but it needs to happen.. and then we can deal with the outside. It's either that.. or just walk from the whole thing and be an individual.


    what say you?


    - Peace

    http://destee.com/index.php?threads...collective-failures.61053/page-11#post-750804
  4. Being off the grid.. unplugged.. no tv.. I come to many things late... I just stumbled onto Leandria Johnson about 3 days ago.. and I was blown away.. artistically speaking. She immediately took to me back to Aretha.. a preachers kid.. a musician.. with that versatility that is actually defined by the black church.. the secular entertainment world covets it.. but the black church actually produces it. But the similarities to aretha.. the musicianship.. the improvisation.. the energy.. the conviction.. it's all there. And thankfully.. through modern technology.. we have the ability to see her and hear her without her having to sell part of her soul to the recording industry. We can see her just singing somebodys church on sunday.. and thats wonderful.​
  5. I am very interested in the Golden Ratio. I spend a bit of time most days fiddling with it. I'm using this blog page to hold bits and pieces that I'd like to hold on to..

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  6. The 1st headline,"U.S. Drug War Expands to Africa" is from this Article in the The New York Times. The 2nd headline,"West Africa takes center stage in U.S. Cold War with China." is how I see it. We all know by now that the so-calledWar On Drugs is nothing but a public front for covert operations and nothing more than an excuse for a military presence outside of the normal jurisdiction.

    Look at what happened with Iran/Contra.. the President illegally selling weapons to Iran in order to support military operations that congress pulled the plug on in Central America. But America didn't stop military operations in Central America.. The operations were simply re-titled "The War On Drugs" and military operations continued.. We were now fighting to keep evil Latin American drugs off of our streets.. Even though it was the same president that opened America's streets to that dope in the first place.

    In the same way that they "War On Terror" allowed an Oil rich son of a previous President to wage his own personal war against Iraq to finish what his father started.. and also take control of one of the largest oil-producing nations in the region.. The War On Drugs in Africa will serve the same sort of purpose. Let's not forget that Nigeria is an english-speaking.. Oil rich nation as well. The race for African resources is on.. Expect to see an all out civil war in Nigeria within the next 5 years or so. This Drug War will be real.. They will make it real.. even if they have to bring the dope in themselves.. they probably already are. The playbook has not changed.. they do the same things again and again.. the same exact ways.. So when you see so-called "Terror attacks".. and "Drug wars" being reported about Nigeria, recognize whats really happening.. Their is a real cold-war going on right now between China and America/Europe minus Russia.. And control of Africa's resources is a key component of Superpowerdom. A Nuclear-armed.. high-technology enabled.. 2+ billion strong.. industrial juggernaut Nation like China that held-off Western control and domination for hundreds and hundreds of years.. cannot be bullied militarily.. or sanctioned into acquiescence.. And for those reasons, the battle with China will be fought through proxies.


    Here's the NY Times Article:


    U.S. Drug War Expands to Africa, a Newer Hub for Cartels


    WASHINGTON — In a significant expansion of the war on drugs, the United States has begun training an elite unit of counternarcotics police in Ghana and planning similar units in Nigeria and Kenya as part of an effort to combat the Latin American cartels that are increasingly using Africa to smuggle cocaine into Europe.​
    he growing American involvement in Africa follows an earlier escalation of antidrug efforts in Central America, according to documents, Congressional testimony and interviews with a range of officials at the State Department, the Drug Enforcement Administration and the Pentagon.​

    In both regions, American officials are responding to fears that crackdowns in more direct staging points for smuggling — like Mexico and Spain — have prompted traffickers to move into smaller and weakly governed states, further corrupting and destabilizing them.​

    The aggressive response by the United States is also a sign of how greater attention and resources have turned to efforts to fight drugs as the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan have wound down.​

    “We see Africa as the new frontier in terms of counterterrorism and counternarcotics issues,” said Jeffrey P. Breeden, the chief of the D.E.A.’s Europe, Asia and Africa section. “It’s a place that we need to get ahead of — we’re already behind the curve in some ways, and we need to catch up.”​

    The initiatives come amid a surge in successful interdictions in Honduras since May — but also as American officials have been forced to defend their new tactics after a commando-style team of D.E.A. agents participated in at least three lethal interdiction operations alongside a squad of Honduran police officers. In one of those operations, in May, the Honduran police killed four people near the village of Ahuas, and in two others in the past month American agents have shot and killed smuggling suspects.​

    To date, officials say, the D.E.A. commando team has not been deployed to work with the newly created elite police squads in Africa, where the effort to counter the drug traffickers is said to be about three years behind the one in Central America.​

    The officials said that if Western security forces did come to play a more direct operational role in Africa, for historical reasons they might be European and not American.​

    In May, William R. Brownfield, the assistant secretary of state for international narcotics and law enforcement, a leading architect of the strategy now on display in Honduras, traveled to Ghana and Liberia to put the finishing touches on a West Africa Cooperative Security Initiative, which will try to replicate across 15 nations the steps taken in battling trafficking groups operating in Central America and Mexico.​

    Mr. Brownfield said the vision for both regions was to improve the ability of nations to deal with drug trafficking, by building up their own institutions and getting them to cooperate with one another, sharing intelligence and running regional law enforcement training centers.​

    But because drug traffickers have already moved into Africa, he said, there is also a need for the immediate elite police units that have been trained and vetted.​

    “We have to be doing operational stuff right now because things are actually happening right now,” Mr. Brownfield said.​

    Some specialists have expressed skepticism about the approach. Bruce Bagley, a professor at the University of Miami who focuses on Latin America and counternarcotics, said that what had happened in West Africa over the past few years was the latest example of the “Whac-A-Mole” problem, in which making trafficking more difficult in one place simply shifts it to another.​

    “As they put on the pressure, they are going to detour routes, but they are not going to stop the flow, because the institutions are incredibly weak — I don’t care how much vetting they do,” Professor Bagley said. “And there is always blowback to this. You start killing people in foreign countries — whether criminals or not — and there is going to be fallout.”​

    American government officials acknowledge the challenges, but they are not as pessimistic about the chances of at least pushing the trafficking organizations out of particular countries. And even if the intervention leads to an increase in violence as organizations that had operated with impunity are challenged, the alternative, they said, is worse.​

    “There is no such thing as a country that is simply a transit country, for the very simple reason that the drug trafficking organization first pays its network in product, not in cash, and is constantly looking to build a greater market,” Mr. Brownfield said. “Regardless of the name of the country, eventually the transit country becomes a major consumer nation, and at that point they have a more serious problem.”​

    The United Nations says that cocaine smuggling and consumption in West Africa havesoared in recent years, contributing to instability in places like Guinea-Bissau. Several years ago, a South American drug gang tried to bribe the son of the Liberian president to allow it to use the country for smuggling. Instead, he cooperated with the D.E.A., and the case resulted in convictions in the United States.​

    Even more ominous, according to American officials, was a case in which a militant group called Al Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb offered three of its operatives to help ship tons of cocaine through North Africa into Europe — all to raise money to finance terrorist attacks. The case ended this past March with conviction and sentencing in federal court in New York.​

    American counternarcotics assistance for West Africa has totaled about $50 million for each of the past two years — up from just $7.5 million in 2009, according to the State Department. The D.E.A. also is opening its first country office in Senegal, officials said, and the Pentagon has worked with Cape Verde to establish a regional center to detect drug-smuggling ships.​

    While the agency has not sponsored units in West Africa before, it has long worked with similar teams — which are given training, equipment and pay while being subjected to rigorous drug and polygraph testing — in countries around the world whose security forces are plagued by corruption, including the Dominican Republic, El Salvador, Guatemala and Panama.​

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  7. Howardtsu is one of my favorite Poets.. online/offline.. this is a list of all of his Poetry on Destee.com.

    2006
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/our-hips-could-hop-together.43130/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/cranky-without-you.43131/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-southern-belle.43217/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-lesson-of-love.43218/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/west-of-my-heart.43219/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/almost-every-morning.43241/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-perfect-thought.43242/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/waiting-patiently-for-her.43513/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-brachs-revenge.43614/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/smooth-intentions.43615/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/i’m-smiling-for-you.43636/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/maybe-im-wrong.43637/

    2007
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/your-molasses-and-me.44110/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/1-cup-of-forgiveness.44111/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/lets-study-the-possibilities.44124/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/removing-doubts.44125/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/his-rival.44286/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/frozen-hearts.44287/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/clearing-the-way.44314/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/super-intentions.44315/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/earning-your-trust.44571/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/take-care-of-my-heart.44572/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/you-woke-me-up.44573/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/shaking-your-heart.44609/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/if-its-what-you-want.44610/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/one-more-season.44768/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/better-than-fiction.44769/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/surrounding-your-heart.44770/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/mastering-her-heart.44804/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/pieces-of-my-heart.44805/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/youre-filling-my-heart.44855/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/squashing-doubts.44856/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/your-heart-of-gold.45264/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/waves-of-pleasure.45265/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/im-lovin-your-oven.45301/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/youre-relatively-beautiful.45302/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/youre-maintaining-my-position.45629/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/lawfully-wed.45630/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/500-kisses-away.45648/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/initial-instincts.46033/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/trusting-your-heart.46034/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/already-present.46035/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/wake-me-up.46659/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/losing-her-smile.46660/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/downloading-her-heart.46678/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-breakfast-at-hardees.46679/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/your-milkshake-is-the-best.46819/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/if-i-could-render-you-speechless.46820/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/your-apprentice.46855/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/c-w-i-conniving-while-intoxicated.46857/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-delicious-outlook.46858/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/recognizing-her-heart.46987/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/translating-your-heart.46988/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/oceans-of-tears.46989/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/an-innocent-plan.47204/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-life-jacket.47205/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-the-good-times.47207/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/march-madness.47326/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/what-if-romeo.47327/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/chasin-glory.47369/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-misconception.47638/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-“glamorous”-life.47639/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-storyteller.47640/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/maybe-were-too-sweet.47780/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-web-heads.47781/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/9-00-am.47937/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/different-worlds.47938/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/making-“dew”.47939/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/good-advice-chuck.48330/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-secret-service.48331/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/if-only-26-smiles-were-enough.48333/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/shes-so-silly.48590/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-wish-to-santa.48592/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-wish-to-santa.48592/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/you-desserted-me.48632/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/forever-flirting.48738/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/previewing-her-heart.48740/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/at-the-end-of-her-line.48934/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/i-loved-you.48935/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/fighting-to-win-her.49613/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/finding-her-swing.49614/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/8-days-of-pleasure.49615/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-sugar-daddy.49652/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-chronicles-of-eve-howard.49653/

    2008
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-light-years.49711/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/v-i-p-very-important-personality.49712/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/i-was-nuts-to-leave-you.49713/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/e-s-p-n-essentially-she’s-pretty-neat.49856/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/time-for-another-holiday.49857/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/this-time-well-be-friends.49922/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-moment-is-now.49923/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-crossing-over.49950/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/slowly-winning-her.50098/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/before-we-met.50099/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/just-enough-songs-to-win-you.50100/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-secret-agents.50188/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/our-checker-game.50293/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/under-your-spell.50294/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-f-i-alligators-fight-initially.50295/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-proper-approach.50343/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/its-only-fair-to-call-me.50344/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/hi-ambitions.50379/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-english-class.50435/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/picky-picky-picky.50436/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/firing-her-editor.50503/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-beach-boy.50504/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-groovy-plan.50526/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-man-can-do-it.50527/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/id-love-frying-without-you.50619/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-a-pair-of-jokers.50621/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-letter-to-jay-z.50652/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-long-time-coming.50653/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/stretching-to-understand.50654/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/full-of-possibilities.50713/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-contender.50714/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/our-hills.50873/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-italian-job.50874/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-sparring-partners.50875/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/working-too-hard.50876/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/learning-to-stay-away.50980/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/on-on.50981/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/color-me-bad.50982/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-geography.50995/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/you-taught-me-well.51057/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-couch-potato.51067/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/deeply-indebted-to-her.51068/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/summarizing-our-positives.51069/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-fairy-tales.51164/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-first-time.51190/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/more-patience-than-necessary.51210/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-better-person.51241/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/having-fun-the-hard-way.51282/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/all-tapped-out.51314/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/immersed-in-rhythm.51315/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/legalized-gambling.51390/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-ring-finger.51400/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/freedom-from-guessing.51430/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/s-u-v-sneaking-under-her-vows.51431/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/ive-been-waiting-for-it.51517/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/3000-reasons-to-try.51529/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-natural-selection.51530/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/breaking-her-fall.51531/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-distinguished-gentleman.51628/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/you-bring-it-out-of-me.51640/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/s-o-s-substance-or-style.51714/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/understanding-their-friendship.51751/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/everyone-should-have-her-heart.51752/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/owner-of-a-lonely-heart.51801/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/just-another-guy.51831/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/helping-her-across-her-street.51847/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/if-only-i-had-game.51887/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-premium-on-trust.51949/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/opening-her-door.51950/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-making-up.51952/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/moving-in-rhythm.52023/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/happily-ever-after.52042/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/ringing-her-bell.52044/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/what-youre-seeing.52045/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-needless-intervention.52113/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/lighter-than-expected.52114/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/waiting-to-exhale.52190/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/our-trust-fund.52191/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/as-much-as-i-can-give-her.52218/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/obligations.52279/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/some-major-issues.52340/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/thats-what-it-would-take.52405/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/more-than-she-expected.52431/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/too-pretty-to-forget.52551/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-hoop-dreams.52552/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/dripping-with-possibilites.53762/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/beyond-her-blueprint.53891/

    2009
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/we-sobered-up.55158/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/another-try.55642/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-latest-update.55782/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/reconstructing-our-future.55853/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/if-it-was-me.56242/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-layers-untold.56336/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/business-partners.56609/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/learning-to-guess.56689/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-way-we-were.56767/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/freezing-me-out.57023/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-couple-of-laps-ahead.57153/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/made-to-delight.57340/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-eye-of-her-world.57395/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/in-over-my-head.57462/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/why-i-cant-slow-down.57468/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-american-gangster.57486/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-great-hunt.57643/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/what-drives-me.57644/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-blue-devil.57738/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/like-putty-in-his-hands.57739/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/what-i-need.58030/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/getting-hitched.58031/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/something-in-common.58033/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/an-unconventional-approach.58047/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/unfinished-business.58048/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-guardian.58278/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/caught-up-in-the-moment.58279/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-safest-journey.58280/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-brazilian-affair.58415/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?thr...ee.com/index.php?threads/her-volunteer.58732/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/remixing-her-heart.58742/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/seeing-double.58743/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/eve-howard-outlaws.58755/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/when-i-lost-my-quarterback.58895/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-crowning-achievement.58896/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/doing-the-bossa-nova.58956/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-real-illusion.58957/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/making-a-difference.58986/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-third-party.59085/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-clean-start.59086/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/definity.59087/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-whip-appeal.59088/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-super-sized-fantasy.59148/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/holding-her-trump-card.59205/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-frozen-favorite.59206/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/incentives.59207/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-next-move.59317/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/making-her-famous.59318/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/doing-the-1-2-step.59430/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-spy-who-loved-me.59431/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/twin-desires.59521/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/sometimes-things-work-out.59522/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/missing-her-cheerios.59523/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/making-them-unforgettable.59574/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/almost-there.59575/

    2010
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-delivery-girl.59807/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/after-a-little-bit-of-golden-grain.59809/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/another-check-up.59810/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-big-ticket.59869/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/almost-everything-she-needs.59929/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-stimulus-package.60409/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-origins-of-our-recipe.60472/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-“will”-to-win.60596/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/our-trade-deficit.61011/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/why-i-broadcast.61012/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/my-secondary-education.61013/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/teaching-her-to-fly.61033/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/worth-the-effort.61168/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-power-play.61169/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/shopping-for-my-partner.61324/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-sweetest-date.61343/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-hard-surface-to-win-on.61344/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/collecting-her-royalties.61388/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/following-my-instincts.61453/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/at-the-edge-of-love.61512/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/believe-it-or-not-i-made-the-first-move.61513/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-major-influence.61611/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/arrested-development.61612/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/wowsers.61813/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-better-mission.61814/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-novel-idea.61844/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/id-remember-you.61922/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/electronically-linked.62054/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/comforting-her.62055/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/opening-her-heart.62088/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/im-through-crumbling-for-her.62156/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/unbound-by-passion.62282/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/analyzing-her-french-toast.62284/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/entertaining-her.62833/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-league-of-their-own.62834/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-frozen-section.62835/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-hero.63074/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/living-to-please-her.63075/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/celebrity-rehab.63076/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/close-to-comfort.64529/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/a-love-triangle.66287/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-origins-of-our-recipe.66288/

    2011
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/how-to-play-texas-hold-em.66289/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-origins-of-our-recipe.66288/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/how-to-play-texas-hold-em.66289/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/business-partners.66290/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/her-blademaster.67427/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/answered-prayers.67428/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/the-way-we-were.67429/

    2012
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/regaining-my-swagger.72638/
    http://www.destee.com/index.php?threads/touching-me-with-fire.72639/
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  9. Eric Holder on voter ID laws: ‘We call those poll taxes’


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    Speaking before the NAACP, Attorney General Eric Holder departed from his prepared speech on Tuesday, decrying voter ID laws that have been proposed in 10 states so far. Talking Points Memo reports:
    "Under the proposed law, concealed handgun licenses would be acceptable forms of photo ID, but student IDs would not," Holder said. "Many of those without IDs would have to travel great distances to get them, and some would struggle to pay for the documents they might need to obtain them. We call those poll taxes."
    Holder isn't the first to say such laws are racist. Benjamin Todd Jealous, CEO and president of the NCAAP, evoked the civil rights movement Monday, comparing the moment to "Selma and Montgomery times." Jealous unilaterally opposed the laws, saying, "Simply put, the NAACP will never stand by as any state tries to encode discrimination into law."
    http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/ticket/eric-holder-voter-id-laws-call-those-poll-193012336.html


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    Twisted politics forces people into ridiculous positions.. on the surface.. requiring ID to prove you are who you say you are and that you do indeed have the right to vote seems like a no-brainer. Anyone designing a voting system would most certainly want to ensure the integrity of the election results. But what about if you wanted to ensure that those results could be manipulated? What kind of system would you design? Exactly: A system that does not require ID. And that system was.. to use an unexplainably black idiomatic expression.. "all fine and good" until the tables were turned.. and the ones that had traditionally derived the greatest benefit from that system are finding themselves holding the short end of the stick.. or so it seems. But if anything is certain on this Earth.. its that Texas's Electoral votes will be going to a Republican.. ID or no ID... so why the fuss?
    What is really behind the wrongly-convicted/executed capital of the Western world's sudden obsession with integrity? The last election wasn't even close compared to the two previous elections featuring their own George Bush.. So why this now?

    I'll give you a hint.. it has absolutely nothing to do with the integrity of poll results..
    The fuss is part of an overall scheme to make the Obama administration look as unreasonable as possible. And to the uniformed voter.. . the first-time voter.. that is not able or willing to keep-up with the ever-changing context-sensitive partisan-political scorecard.. this whole idea of consider and ID requirement as a Poll Taxwill seem moderately unreasonable at best.. and completely ridiculous at worst. But the real question is will they see it as more unreasonable than the oppositions platform?
    I say No.. but taken together with the President's ill-timed Biden-forced endorsement of Gay marriage, it may siphon-off a few percentage points of support to a pie-in-the-sky Independent candidate or to no one at all.

    Now.. with all of that said..

    The danger in this lay in any attempt by Obama supporters to argue this case on the merits of the surface issue.. requiring ID to vote. That is a trap issue. And you dont want to find yourself defending this solely on the merits of the surface context. The way to handle that is to cut across the surface issue and acknowledge the tactical political nature of this particular fight. But to do that.. you have to have a deeper understanding of the issues and whats really at stake... and the same goes for every other issue on the table. We have to evolve from the cheer-leading phase and begin to cultivate a deeper understanding of the Political landscape. Obama has, at most, 4 more years.. that's it, that's all.. and the whole black president thing is a wash if we don't use this time to march toward that deeper understanding. Everything he does can be undone.. he's temporary.. but the people will persist.. and the lessons learned from this whole experience must be folded into the fabric of our culture and remembered long after Obama walks out of the White House.. and later is better than sooner.. but either way, that day will come.


    But is it Racism?

    I don't think Racism is the right word in this situation.. really.. it's politics. The President is Black.. The First lady is Black.. The Attorney General is Black.. Even the Surgeon General is Black.. Black people are in Politically powerful positions.. you can't ignore that and skip over to claims of Racism.. This is Politics. And it's dirty and it's tiring.. but thats the game.. and if we're going to play it, we gotta stop pulling out that race card at every challenge. Of course the opposition want's Obama out.. just like we wanted Bush out.. and they wanted Clinton out.. that's the nature of the game. It's my opinion that we do ourselves, as a people, a disservice when we frame every challenge in terms of Racism. These are political to challenges in the perpetual struggle for power that we call "Democracy".. It's time to grow out of that impulse.. and update our rhetoric.

    Like I said.. Obama has no more than 4 and half more years in office.. Then what?
    If we don't use his time in office to grow politically, then we will be doing ourselves a tremendous disservice. We have to begin to frame these things outside of race.. that's a made hand and you can't win with it.. even when you do win, you lose. It's a framework that limits vision and growth.

    If the Republicans lose this election, they will be forced to flush their ideology and re-tool the party platform.. or risk losing their corporate sponsorship.. and do you know where that corporate sponsorship will go then? To the Democratic party. Democrats will become the new representatives of corporate interests.. I personally think they already are.. I think both parties are two sides of the same coin.. but the money flows to where the power is.. and thats really what American politics is all about.. Money.
  10. Peace @Omowalejabali.. cherryblossom, Kemetstry, Destee and every body else..

    I think Omowalejabali's post above makes a key point. Not being willing to do what it takes to protect our communities is a gargantuan failure. it is, in my opinion.. the primary failure. And yes, I'm familiar with the reasons why.. but "why" doesn't bring that mother back her son.. or that daughter back her dignity.. or that son back from drug addiction. This failure to protect our people is a great source of division and confusion within our culture in America.

    The jails are full of folks that have murdered or assaulted others over money.. or property.. or reputation. Black men have proven that they are not afraid of jail.. not even afraid of death. So, if we are going to die.. and we are going to be jailed.. why not let it be for noble reasons? We're going to jail for being the dope dealer.. when we should be going to jail for breaking his legs.. or blowing up his car.. with all the guns.. and lack of police protection in the hood.. the forces for righteousness should be handling their business.. That church on the corner should have an Armory in the basement.. and those streets should be safe with or without the police. Folks doing wrong should be disappearing.. The fact that that is not happening is a tremendous failure.. and is responsible for what I call "the respect-drain" in black communities.

    Folks often ask why some women like thugs.. believe it or not.. this is part of it.. a person willing to go against the status quo for what he wants.. is more attractive than a man that allows the law to press him into social impotence. Those dudes protect their communities.. they protect their territories.. and they do it despite the law.. now.. even though they protecting those areas just so they can do wrong.. they are still exuding the strength that men in western society are supposed to exude.

    If this was a black-only nation.. their would be a civil war between the underworld dudes and everybody else..

    Remember this scene between these brothers in the Mack:




    This is one of the internal struggles that we have to confront.. it's the same issue that comes up whenever a black person is shot by the cops.. and one side says "shame on the cops".. and the other side says, "shame on the black man".. and both sides are right.. and both things need to be dealt with.. but if we are going to be a group.. and share a fate.. we have to deal with our internal issues first.. we have to come together.. and that may have to be a violent process.. but it needs to happen.. and then we can deal with the outside. It's either that.. or just walk from the whole thing and be an individual.


    what say you?


    - Peace
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