Scenario... You've been dating a man who has just asked you to marry him. About a month after the engagement occurs, a woman knocks on your door leaving an 11 month old boy on your porch. She hands you his birth certificate, clothes and tells you to keep him. This is the child of the man you are to marry, and you were already aware of him. You are still going ahead with the marriage to your man, so here are my questions to you... a.) Do you keep the child? b.) If you keep the child, would you adopt him? c.)Would you try to give the child back to the mother? d.) Would you turn the child over to the state? This is an actual event that happened to my mother & step brother. She chose not to adopt the child but raised him for 12 years. She raised him even though she divorced his dad after the child was 5. One day when he was 12, he took some of her jewlery to school and sold it to some friends. When my mother found out about it she gave him a spanking. My "brother" told the teachers that my mother picked him up by his ankles and beat him. My mother is 5'0 and my brother at the time was about 5'5, it was impossible for her to have done that... and although school officials did not see evidence of a beating (spanking for those who don't know), they took him out of the home. When the case went to court the judge told my brother that he didn't have to go back home since my mother never adopted him, but my brother said he was ready to go back home. He never thought for a second that my mother would say she didn't want him back...which is what she did. She told the court that if she couldn't discipline him the way she saw fit...which wasn't abuse - that she was not going to take him back. So he was turned over to the state because his father had already abandoned him and could not be located. His real mother of course had relinquished her rights to him and made it clear she never would acknowledge him as her son. I know I'm rambling. While I understand my mother's point of view, I have always wondered how she could raise him that long and then turn her back on him...especially knowing his situation. He is now 26 years old. He spent 10 years in prison and was released when he was 24...I am not aware of his whereabouts at this time.