I had the occasion the other day to take a commerical driving test with a number of other drivers, young and older. Some of us passed our test(that does not include me), and some failed, but what I noticed was the stark difference between how the older guys took their defeat as opposed to the younger guys. It was amazing how the older guys seemed to blame THEMSELVES for not living up to their potential, and the younger guys(to a man!)blamed their failure on the examinerLOL! The older men seemed to spend time asking the examiner for suggestions on what they needed to do to improve themselves for the next test, and the younger guys spent their time cursing the examiner out. Some of the older fellows advised the young guys against inflaming the examiner, and the young guys, knowing the next time they'd not have to be tested by the same examiner, kept on cursing. I told one of the young cats that THIS examiner had friends among the other examiners, and he'd be sure to let them know what a clown you were. That seemed to give at least one of these kids pause. This is not to say that ALL young guys make excuses, and even if they do, one has to wonder who taught them this is the way to handle adversity. I do know that I was told young, that I made whatever bed I had to sleep in, and that means that I had to be accountable for making that bed a nice place to lay down in. I was also told that tomorrow is a new day. Where you messed up today, you can, if you are committed to improving, rectify what you did wrong yesterday. As a result, I don't react in extremes to failure and adversity. I've seen it before, and I will see it again, if GOD spares my life. Granted, there are times when other folks incompetence becomes a part of the equation - like the refs in the Dallas-Miami game.lol! But if you are as good as you think you are, even someone elses incompetence will be nullified by your shine. Making excuses reflects on YOU, and YOU alone. I sure wish, particularly with Father's Day fresh in our minds, that older brothers would be more proactive in, either, providing a clear example of that, or mentoring young guys so that they can manifest a greater sense of confidence in themselves, and responsibility for their own actions.