Black Relationships : YOU LOVE ME WHEN I'M EVIL...

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  1. Isaiah

    Isaiah Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Ladies, I've heard it said by brothers that y'all seem so attracted to brothers when we're just mean and evil for no good reason... I've seen sisters eyeballing me when I'm angry, or just have a certain focused and intense look on my face, but I've noticed the opposite as well, so I wont make any definitive claims...

    But I have noticed that when I was in no mood to take no mess from even GOD, my lady friends get all sweet and cooey(is that a word?)... My ex usta just be a smiling, and so helpful, and "can I assist you" and babying when I was giving her the silent treatment, and slamming doors on my way out, and so forth.... I wondered what that was all about sometimes - even considered being evil on auto-pilot so I could get that kinda treatment 24/7/365LOL!

    I guess it is a turn-on to some extent, all that intensity, and "I don't give a **** about nothing!" virility... Hey, it's kind of a turn-on when sisters are being a little evil and unmanageable, and a little GHETTO, too... A Fendi bag, and a bad attitude, that's all it takes to put me in the right mood... Hmmmm...



    Peace!
    Isaiah
     
  2. IfUComeSoftly

    IfUComeSoftly Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    ummm... you forgot that she had to be chocolate as well... see i remember. i dunno what's the deal about all of that. i don't think that i carry on in such a way... However IF i do then... i plead the fifth. LOL....
    And I think women only try to be accomodating when a man is upset WHEN.... she KNOWS she messed up or she' s wrong. now that goes for the everyday run of the mill sista... not the non confidence havin sistaz....
    and that goes both ways... if if get my panties in a bunch about one thing or another.... men think that's cute... which infuriates me even more... so... basically... thats a load of crap zay... LMAO... it's the OTHER way around.... lol... so blah...
     
  3. Isaiah

    Isaiah Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Ah, I see, men think it's cute when you "get you panties in a bunch", and I think that's sooooo sexy... Those men probably think you're sexy too, but you apparently misread them like most womenLOL!

    Now, Softly, if you would just stop throwin' it to the creek and watchin' them alligators eat, you might just notice that, but...you just get so infuriated, and caint even see a brother's testosterone levels so high it looks like he's got a headache! A Headache - get it???LOL!

    But you are so right... I guess the ladies are just kinda tryna make up for being wrong, and since that's so unusual, I overlooked that possibilty... Will you please - can you please - forgive me, your highness???(smile!) Go SOFTLY on a brother today, o.k.???




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    Isaiah
     
  4. cursed heart

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    Just don't beat me and yes I think it's very sexy because it shows emotion.:smooch:
     
  5. NNQueen

    NNQueen going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Is this inherent in all men and women regardless of race?

    Here's why I ask that question...

    "Recently, I got asked the following question, which has been coming up more and more lately:

    "What's all this stuff about being a "cocky/funny" "Alpha" male? Is it true that "busting" on a woman and being "Alpha" is what it really takes to get the kind of hot women most men really want?"

    "Look: there is nothing wrong, per se, with being cocky or commanding or challenging with a woman. Hell, I even gave advice on exactly how to do this way back in 1988 when I wrote my original book, How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed. But being cocky and sarcastic, by itself, is not going to get you into a woman's arms or her bed, unless you happen to already be so good looking that she feels her naughty parts tingle just by looking at you.
    What being cocky and teasing a woman a little can do is get you past her initial, "Is this just another loser guy?" screening tests. It will get her attention, and hold it, for a little while. It will get you past her first set of screens and keep you talking with her, for a little while. Read more here:
    http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/137_dating_advice_a.html

    "She's on top of her dating game. She is obstinate, conceited and doesn't make it easy for you to pick her up. She gives you a run for your money and makes you work overtime on her, so to speak. But all this only makes her more appealing to you. She is, in other words, the quintessential "alpha female."

    The alpha female has an uncanny ability to make men chase her. Her talent is very distinct from that of the "alpha male," a man whose aptitude for chasing women is finely tuned. But the alpha female's talents are special, and consequently, chasing her might be your biggest dating challenge yet." Read more here: http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/137_dating_girl.html

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
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    Omowale Jabali The Cosmic Journeyman PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Okay...now I'm going to admit to this...to a degree....for a simplfied reason.

    By nature I am athletic. Very competitive. And I'm one of those brothers who even in my late 40s still can get on the court with guys half my age and turn out some lighs...I just can't run as many games as i could before knee surgery..

    Now, one thing about the alpha male athlete.....:puke2:

    Constantly TRASH TALKING.....

    So, for me.....the "alpha female" is another challenge that I am used to....AND A WOMAN WHO IS NOT AFRAID TO GO :1on1:

    yEAH!!
     
  7. Isaiah

    Isaiah Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I wont beat you, Cursed Heart, but I aint making no promises!LOL!:cry:

    Queenie, like I said, I have to admit that when a sister puts those hands on those hips, and kinda looks at me like, "Now, you don't even wanna get me started", welll....sometimes that's sexy! Gotta admit it...:welldone:

    Conversely, I cannot understand that when I am being an utter knucklehead - one of the FEW things I can really do well - it is always so greatly appreciated... But when I'm a "nice guy", I don't get the rewards for that... This is ironic in light of some of the things brother Samurai has said on another thread, which was sanctioned by many here... That nice guys are appreciated is NOT the norm from my advantage point...and nice girls just get preyed upon... And we wanna ask why sisters got attitudes???


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  8. NNQueen

    NNQueen going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    For real

    I don't know, Brother Isaiah because I'm not one of those women. I do not consider ill-managed aggression exhibited by men, especially the kind directed toward me, or the "silent" treatment--sexy or stimulating. How is that healthy "love play?" A man walking around with a scowl on his face ain't cute to me. If he's pissed off about something, I'm gonna stay the heck out of his way so that I don't become his target. How can anyone prefer "mean" over "nice"? I'm sorry, I just don't understand that. I'm old school, mean is mean and nice is nice. There is a HUGE difference in my book. If you're mean to me, depending on the position of the planets, you subject to get mean back.

    Libra is my sign. I seek a healthy balance of emotions. It's crazy enough out there in the real world...too much "meanness" going on as it is. It's human nature to react sometimes to situations and people. But handle it well. Walking around pouting or sulking or stomping your feet ain't gonna earn you any brownie points with me. 'Flexing your muscles' at me as an act of aggression will get you nothing but an ice cold attitude and then I'll move on and hopefully to a better place.

    Now, as a sister and a mature one at that, maybe I should be more compassionate toward a brother who is obviously struggling and misguided, but that will all depend on whether he's willing to work with me and meet me at a point where we both can agree there's a better place for him to act out his aggression.

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
  9. HoneyBrown05

    HoneyBrown05 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    All that is our maternal instincts. When something is wrong I want to know why so that I can care and nurture you. Then again (it depends), some women see that aggression as sign of security. Knowing that when she is with you she can feel secure. It all depends on the situation and the person. But don't generalize that situation with all black women.
     
  10. SAMURAI36

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    Sister, not only do I agree, but I wish there were more Sisters in this world who think as you do.

    I'm freely willing to admit that our people have more to be justifiably mad at, than any others in this world, but I also think that we take this anger/resentment/frustration, etc to an unhealthy extreme.

    I am a firm adherant to the notion that demeanor plays a significant part in our health and well-being. As such, it's a wonder that we suffer from so much diabetes, heart problems, etc.

    We're killing ourselves, slowly......At the expense of trying to appear "hard".

    PEACE
     
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