Black Relationships : Would You Marry You?

toylin

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Hello, family.

So many of us tlak about how we are unable to find a good mate, or how we have changed, but the person we are pursuing refuses to change. My question is: Would you marry/date you if you had the chance? What I mean by that is, what are your best traits? Your worst? What can you offer? What do you hope to gain?

So, would you marry/date you? :?:
 

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Would I get with me? I can say "yes" without flinching. I'll list my best traits first, then my worst:

My best:

- completely loyal
- trustworthy
- honest to a fault
- I live the Golden Rule everyday
- I have an open mind and repsect everyone's right to be different
- I'm a GREAT conversationalist and I can speak with people about different things on different levels
- I'm creative, witty and smart
- I can operate in the "hood" or at a business meeting
- I can wear the hell out of a suit...I could be a Stacy Adams model
- I'm an old school gentleman and a scholar
- I don't forget "special" days

My Faults:

-I'm impatient
- my words have a tendeny to cut; I have a very sharp tongue
- I usually mean everything I say and am pretty unapologetic about it
- I'm pretty set in my ways for a younger man
- I can be judgemental at times
- I tend to have a low tolerance for what I consider to be a weakness in others
- I don't take disappointment well at all, at least not when it comes to women
- I basically expect to be rejected by any women I meet because that's all I have experienced
- sometimes I feel very bitter about the way I feel I have been ignored by black women
- I feel like I have a better chance at becoming a billionaire than getting married...that's no joke

What I have to offer:

- I'm a pretty good listener and I've been dying for a woman to trust me enough to tell me what's on her mind, how her day was, cry on my shoulder, etc.
- I can cook...most things
- I can be very romantic...if I can just get some practice
- A woman needs her ego stroked? I can do it.
- I'm very stable and consistent. Security and trust are not an issue with me
- I actually value monogamy and have never wanted to live another way
- I want to be a father and a husband and if I achieve this I will never abandon my post
- I handle my business in the street, in the house and at the job
- I'm very responsible with money
- The desire to love ONE woman...if that woman exists and ever makes herself seen...I'd die trying to make her happy because she'd be the one to FINALLY set me free and fill me up

What I hope to gain:

- a woman that can appreciate all this
- a woman who wants what I have to offer
- a woman who reciprocates
- a woman who knows it's not always about her
- a loyal, trustworthy, honest and responsible partner
- a woman I feel comfortable talking to about anything, and one who feels she can trust me with anything in her head and heart
- a woman who wants to be a wife and mother and will never abandon her post
- an intelligent woman who knows what she wants out of life and understands that being with me will not hinder her in the pursuit of her goals
- a woman who actually likes to cook for her husband sometimes

So again, yes. I would definitely marry me, despite my faults. I think the good in me outweighs any bad. Maybe I like myself a little too much, but that's how I feel.
 

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I would say not, but most def worthy of self
but a soulmate is not within self but the mate of a woman .
 

islander

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I have my ways and I sometimes need some guidance, but I think I'd marry me. Brother Solo...HOLLA!!!
 

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very intresting to hub self in marriage
the tales of dennis Rodman & bride surely
i know i'm worthy of self and how deep my own love is
but to become my own soulmate naw ! give me a woman
lol
 

toylin

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Hmm.. there seems to be some confusion by what I meant in this thread. When I ask, would you marry you, I mean, if you were someone else, if you were on the outside looking in, if you had a chance to talk to you and not BE you.. would you marry you? Solo and Islander seem to be the only ones that got it. This thread was intended to be a way to outline your good traits and your flaws, and do some deep introsepction about oneself. You have to know thyself before you can ever hope to know anyone else. So, let's try this again.

What are you good traits?
What are your flaws?
What are you looking for; i.e. your goals in a relationship?
And finally, taking into account the above answers, you you recommend yourself as marriage material?
 

toylin

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Would I marry myself? Hmm... I'd have to say yes, but only after a decent courtship.

Pros:
-Honest
-Good listener
-Loves with whole heart, unconditionally
-Can cook
-Open with feelings
-Willing to learn and try new things

to name a few...

Cons:
-Honest to a fault, sometimes blunt
-Can be impatient
-Stubborn

I hope to achieve:

-An open, honest, caring relationship with my best friend.

So, after dating to see exactly what things I am stubborn about, how I take in new experiences, and what I will put up with.. I'd have to say, yes. I recommend myself for commitment. :heart:
 

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