I have a very close friend who resents her mother for leaving her to be with a man she has only known for three months. She talks to herself constantly and on some nights she even knowingly cuts herself. She is in constantly dismay and I can't say I blame her. She loves her mother with all her heart and she thought her mother loved with the same love. However, how can one say that her mother love's her too when she left her for a man? My friend says she is not even sure that she loves this man either. She thinks she is only with him to get money. He's a doctor. He won't let her stay with them. She won't even let her mother talk to her. Isn't this wrong? How can a man be so devious? Anyway, the girl now stays with her grandmother who is on her dying bed. Her mother does not even know she's dying because she even lost ties to her too. She fears that she will have no where else to go if her grandmother dies. She will be forced to go to foster care. She's younger than me. I'm like her mentor. I would help her but I'm not 18 yet. I can't. She hates her mother because she left her. Do you think she is right to (resent/hate) her mother? Do you think that the mother was right to put her with her grandmother and break all ties? Would you have done it? I want to know what you think on this topic because this is very sincere to my heart. Also do you know of any ways I could help her find a family before sending her to foster care with the state because I really do want to help her.