I'm a 27 year old mother of four. I recently(today 5-20-04) got a divorce from my husband. We were together 10 years. Going thru this divorce was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life. One reason being I didn't believe in divorce. We separated over 3 years ago, and I always remained faithful to him even tho we weren't sleeping together, it was hard, but God has been too good to me to turn back to sin. My husband wasn't supporting our family, our home, or our everyday needs. About 2 years into the separation he had an affair. I just found out about it in September of last year. When I found this out it broke my heart so because I never thought he would ever do this to me. What hurt even more was, a woman slept with him knowing all along he was married....smh I tried to leave it in the hands of God because there was nothing I could do to control their actions. I tried to tell myself God sees all and THEY will have to answer to HIM one day. Still, I just had to confront her and ask her why? She couldn't say nuthing but yeah I knew he was married, but yall wasn't together at the time. Isnt marriage always marriage until death do you part or the judge signs the divorce card? Where is the respect for marriage? I would never sleep with a married man 1. because I fear God too much. I couldn't stand to have to lQQk HIM in the face and tell him why I helped to break the bond HE created for man and woman. 2. I've seen a good friend suffer,same situation and now I have gone thru it myself. The pain is so undescribable. I have so much hate for the woman who slept with my husband, but If I had a chance to pay her back by doing what she did to me, I couldn't. I refuse to let someone elses foolish mistakes harden my heart. 3. There are too many single brothers out there to risk going to hell. We need to stop lQQking @ other peoples mates and find that mate for us. How can you be at peace with yourself knowing you may be helping to tear a family apart? The devil has reeked war on marriages, please don't let him use you to do his evil works. I guess I learned my values of marriage fom my parents who were wonderful examples. My father is a Baptist minister and my mother a teacher. I just wonder if any of you out there are trying to teach your children the right values and the morals. Are you being a good exmple. Or are you helping to continue the cycle of immorality?