Black Relationships : Would you date a guy if he lied about his age?

[bigtown]

If you met a guy and started dating him, he tells you that he's 9 years older than you. After dating for a couple of months, you begin to have strong feelings for him. One day he confesses to you that he was 13 years older instead. However, He physically appears less than 9 years older than you; and he also has a youthful personality. When you ask him why he lied, he says that since you met online he never really thought you would actually meet. especially since you were both in different cities when you met online. Would you forgive the untruth and continue to date him, or would you cut it off?

 

[karmashines]

It depends how old I was. In my 20s and 30s, no, not acceptable. 40s on up I wouldn't care that much about the age difference. I would be more concerned that the person lied to me.

 

[Destee]

Brother Bigtown ... all dating / relationship threads ... need to go in the Relationship Forum.

I'm going to move this there now.

In regard to your question, my concern would be why he felt the need to lie about such a relatively trivial thing ... but i think we could work it out, if i could believe he'd be truthful with me, from that point on.



Destee

 

[Tee]

If he lied about something like age, what else would he lie about?

 

[Nita]

Well,

If he began the relationship with a lie then I would find it very hard to trust him on anything else.

 

[bigtown]

It depends how old I was. In my 20s and 30s, no, not acceptable. 40s on up I wouldn't care that much about the age difference. I would be more concerned that the person lied to me.

Why in your 40s and not in your 20s and 30s?

 

[karmashines]

Why in your 40s and not in your 20s and 30s?

I think at that age I would be on the same 'level' as someone 13 years older.