Black Relationships : Would Marry Your Deceased Friend's Spouse?

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I have a childhood friend whose mother passed away from breast cancer, before she passed she told her husband and friend (who also a friend of my family's) that she thinks that they would make a great couple and should marry. And they eventually did.

    Would you marry your friend's husband/wife after they passed away, blessing or no blessing from the deceased?
     
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    I don't see a problem with it if that's what they wanted... Though personally I don't think I would be able to look at my friend's husband in that light idk. Then if they have children and all could be really problematic just depends...
     
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    :11100: if she had that good, good
     
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    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    LMAO!!!!! Stop it!
     
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    THAT is something to think about if my husband was a good man for you know they are hard to find and my best friend was exactly that, I would have a conversation with them and my children because that would be all that matter,i would not want him to be in mourning and become depressed or meeting some woman whom would maybe or maybe not take advantage of him so yes I would give my blessings for I know in my heart and spirit they have both loved me and can now love each other because they have known each other,and they both can move on with my blessing as for some associates/family would have a hard time understanding but if I had children or grandchildren with him then I know that she would continue to give them love and support.....
     
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    That's a little close to home. I'd feel funny. Even if she had dat good, good. :11900:








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    Couldn't do it. Even trying to find a rationale in my mind it just wouldn't sit right.
     
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    Possibly.. but there would have to be a sufficient gap between the death and the relationship. I couldn't pull a Bobby Womack.. marrying Sam Cookes wife 4 months after he died.
     
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    I have no romantic feelings for any of my friends' husbands. If one told me something like that on her deathbed, I'd wonder what the heck was she thinking?! Why would she think I would want her husband? In other words, seems to me somebody musta been giving somebody the googly-eyes (and them reciprocating) while she was alive to make your friend even suggest such a thing. :10500:
     
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    They married like almost a year later
     
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