www.bullyonline.org Definition of workplace bullying by Tim FieldThose who can, do. Those who can't, bully. "Bullying is a compulsive need to displace aggression and is achieved by the expression of inadequacy (social, personal, interpersonal, behavioural, professional) by projection of that inadequacy onto others through control and subjugation (criticism, exclusion, isolation etc). Bullying is sustained by abdication of responsibility (denial, counter-accusation, pretence of victimhood) and perpetuated by a climate of fear, ignorance, indifference, silence, denial, disbelief, deception, evasion of accountability, tolerance and reward (e.g. promotion) for the bully." Tim Field, 1999================================I have many times been plagued by work place bullying. It happens and it appears to be racist in nature. It is hard sometimes to distinguish. Which one is this bullying, or racism? Both are heinous crimes. Totally and utterly evil displaced aggressions. The above quote by Tim Field stating the perpetrator behaves in such manner because of his or her inadequacies is so true. My bosses or for that matter anyone I have ever encountered that displayed racist demeanor, comments, or jesters towards me and in my presence. Are and always be Uncountable human’s beings of the unlikeable kind. In life they fail, have issues of failing, not living up to some unjustifiable expectation and are insecure within themselves. In others words they are damaged goods. They don’t feel good enough to qualify within their own race and project what they believe is acceptable to fit in. "Persistent, offensive, abusive, intimidating or insulting behaviour, abuse of power or unfair penal sanctions which makes the recipient feel upset, threatened, humiliated or vulnerable, which undermines their self-confidence and which may cause them to suffer stress" I have personally encountered both work place racism, and racism outside of work. It has been more prevalently used more against me at work. Human resource departments are not your friend. They are not established to support workers in a manner that will not benefit workers that suffer a violation of their rights of humility and dignity. They are established as the legal “ go between to harness the complaint, interact with the lawyers that represent them and help mitigate the damage a suit would bring.” I know from experience work place humiliation, isolation, intimidation is found, practiced and practiced commonly or widely and is prevalent. I have experienced it and frankly I have had enough! Who they don’t know, is me. I don’t take deep to heart the mistreatment and I am not easily humiliated, I don’t feel the effects of humiliation long term, and I actually like isolation to some degree. To me that isolation is like alone time. I like alone time and time to just not interact. That time gives me time to do some other thinking, self-evaluation, and some peace of mind. Not always having to interact with anyone is satisfying. I don’t necessarily forgive them for their behaviour, but I don’t let it get to me. I am always smiling and that is me. I am always happy, that is me, I always have others concerns in mind, and that is me. I disagree, upfront, let them know I don’t appreciate their behaviour or attitude, let them in no uncertain term know it is totally unacceptable and will not be tolerated. It doesn’t always stop the fools, but I speak up. Speak Out, For Through Your Silence You Become An Accomplice. ======================================= To them “We are of the race no one believes they have to listen to, establish fairness for, and have consideration for.” ( my opinion ) I tell my supervisor something, and it’s related to work, how something works he assigned me. He has no interest, no time or he just doesn’t believe me. This actually happened many times. Then when a co-worker either Caucasian or Vietnamese in many cases speaks about the same thing or they are asked about the same piece of electronics they are troubleshooting or working on. He believes every word, and they are saying the same words I did. They learned how to test from me. So they only know what I have told them or shared about the equipment’s changes. ============================== www.bullyonline.org Stress comes in two forms: positive and negative: Positive stress (or eustress) is the result of competent management and mature leadership where everyone works together and everyone is valued and supported. Positive stress enhances well-being and can be harnessed to enhance performance and fuel achievement. Negative stress (or distress) is the result of a bullying climate where threat, coercion and fear substitute for non-existent management skills. Employees have to work twice as hard to achieve half as much to compensate for the dysfunctional and inefficient management. Negative stress diminishes quality of life and causes injury to health resulting in the symptoms of ill-health described on this page. When people use the word "stress" on its own, they usually mean "negative stress". Stress plays havoc with the body's immune system. Symptoms The symptoms of stress seem to cover more pages of every book published on the subject. Stress caused by bullying results in these symptoms (and more): main symptoms - stress, anxiety, sleeplessness, fatigue (including Chronic Fatigue Syndrome - see below), trauma physical symptoms - reduced immunity to infection leading to frequent colds, coughs, flu, glandular fever, etc (especially on days off, eg weekends and holidays), aches & pains (with no clear cause - this lack of attributability suggests stress as the cause - sometimes diagnosed as fibromyalgia), back pain, chest pains and angina, high blood pressure, headaches and migraines, sweating, palpitations, trembling, hormonal problems (disturbed menstrual cycle, dysmenorrhoea, loss of libido, impotence), physical numbness (especially in toes, fingers, and lips), emotional numbness (including anhedonia, an inability to feel joy and love), irritable bowel syndrome or IBS, paruresis (shy bladder syndrome), thyroid problems, petit mal seizures, skin irritations and skin disorders (eg athlete's foot, eczema, psoriasis, shingles, internal and external ulcers, urticaria), loss of appetite (although a few people react by overeating), excessive or abnormal thirst, waking up more tired than when you went to bed, etc psychological symptoms - panic attacks, reactive depression (which some people describe as Adjustment Disorder with depressed mood), thoughts of suicide, stress breakdown (this is a psychiatric injury, not a mental illness), forgetfulness, impoverished or intermittently functioning memory, poor concentration, flashbacks and replays, excessive guilt, disbelief and confusion and bewilderment ("why me?" - click here for the answer), an unusual degree of fear, sense of isolation, insecurity, desperation, etc; one experiences acute anxiety at the prospect of meeting the bully or visiting the location where the bullying took place, or at the thought of touching the paperwork associated with the case; one is unable to attend disciplinary meetings and may vomit before, during or after the meeting, sometimes at the thought of the meeting or on receiving a threatening letter insisting one attends (these are PTSD diagnostic criteria B4 and B5) behavioural symptoms- tearfulness, irritability, angry outbursts, obsessiveness (the experience takes over your life), hypervigilance (feels like but is not paranoia), hypersensitivity (almost every remark or action is perceived as critical even when it is not), sullenness (a sign the inner psyche has been damaged), mood swings, withdrawal, indecision, loss of humour, hyperawareness (acute awareness of time, seasons, distance travelled), excessive biting, teeth grinding, picking, scratching or tics, increased reliance on drugs (tannin, caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, sleeping tablets, tranquillisers, antidepressants, other substances), comfort spending (and consequent financial problems), phobias (especially agoraphobia), etc effects on personality - shattered self-confidence and self-esteem, low self-image, loss of self-worth and self-love Other symptoms and disorders reported include sleep disorder, bipolar disorder, mood disorder, eating disorder, anxiety disorder, panic disorder, skin disorder. Increasingly researchers are suggesting that diabetes, asthma, allergies, fibromyalgia, multiple sclerosis (MS), chronic fatigue syndrome (ME) and even some forms of cancer are caused or aggravated by stress. ============= I have in many cases found better jobs, and quit. Don’t be stressing me!