- Jan 22, 2004
Riada said:This will be my last post on this. Kente, you may not be doing it on purpose, but you don stomped all over some self-esteem here. You are causing some Sistas who are reading this to begin to doubt their desireability or feel unlovable, unwanted, unworthwhile, or moreso than some did before because you've become a spokeman, in a sense, for all the brothas or men out there who are weight-intolerant.
Self-esteem is all about: feeling like you're lovable, wanted and worthwhile. Sistas know there are other brothas out there who feel the exact same way you do, so it's not just your rejection they'll be thinking about when they're walking down the street. As they approach each Brotha, some of them will be wondering whether he thinks the exact same way you do. Many Brothas don't, but how can the Sista know that?
Yes, health is the MOST important part of all of this. That's what I said this morning. Sistas already know this too, but it's not that simple for anybody who deals with this issue.
Well Riada, my intention was not to make anybody feel bad. I certainly don't want to make anyone feel like the physical appearance is #1 priority. I just feel that people need to be more considerate when it comes to their weight..IF they have a mate to think about. That's all. I'm just saying that I would feel extremely dissappointed and turned-off if I married a 120 lb woman and she blew up to double that size. It just doesn't make sense to me and I hate when people try and use excuses as to why it happens when (IMO) it's just a lack of desire and action to do anything about it. But I'll just shut up and keep it movin', because if I'm hurting feelings, then it's really not worth talking about anymore.