Black Relationships : Women that have been in the system.........

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  1. lexuslady

    lexuslady Member MEMBER

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    Would you date a woman that has been to prison?

    I met this really cool guy, someone that I thought that i could like and become serious with. This guy and I hit it off pretty good. (At least I thought) I was open and honest with this guy about my past because I don't beleive in any surprises, however, I think I scared him off. Should I keep this information more of a secret?


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    there is no better way then being honest to your self and him
    everyone that falls in the system is not always a crime maker
    but a mistake of the past the wild life most part is forgiven if
    one learn from that mistake no one perfect, the system is nothing
    to be proud about but surely can't change the past so i'm sure
    you didn't run him off on that note but a choice he made anyway

    holding a secret from a found mate or could be soulmate is not justice
    to him be trueful & real and u will fine peace more so then a heartbreak.
     
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    i think that you should of kept it to yourself, it's good that your honest but some things you should keep your yourself.
     
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    let me add that in some cases keeping it in undercover
    and building a relationship on secrets can be hurtful once
    the silent is broken , surely he would be upset to learn later
    and know one would wonder why hide it , but if you know and
    truely feel this was a date a relationship that would close then
    yes hold some things back until you can see clear that true love
    has arrive be fair to your self and him do unto others as you would
    want them to do unto u , be real because there is a true guy that understand
    and don't live on the past but the upcoming days ahead , why keep it in the
    closet or use false dress to work around it !
     
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    there are certain things better left unsaid yes.. BUT this isn't one of them.. i believe in honesty... now u dont have to go around telling everyone you meet but if it has or is becoming serious i would def tell them.. that is something i would def. want to know..

    also why hide it.. like i said before.. nothing "usually" stays in the dark forever.. and if u are open and honest your conscious is clear and the relationship is starting off on the right foot.. and stays alot about u..plus it gives the other people the choice to see if they can deal with u and any present or past situations or not.. its quite simple really.. if they were meant to be... it will be period....just rememeber what is said can back fire on u so yes be catious whom u tell any of your businesss to.. but if things are getting serious they have the right to know something like that.. wouldn't u want to knw?
     
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    I think you were right to be open and honest...I'd want to be with someone who accepts all of me.
     
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    Monetary going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I would date a woman who has been to prison. But, it depends on why she went to prison AND what is her mental state at this point.

    peace
     
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    Don't start a relationship off with a lie. You were right to tell him the truth. It's better than being with him and letting him find out later. There are ways people can find out about your past without you telling them, and it's harder to explain why you kept the information from him. Some people have their minds made up from the get-go that if you've been in prison, that you're a bad person, or that you're a lower part of society. You are doing yourself a service by weeding out these close-minder individuals. Like someone said, it depends more on why you were there and what your plans are for the future. There are a million reasons a person gets lock-up, and some are admirable (punching a cop for example).
     
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    You can only get out of a relationship what you put into it in most case IMHO.
     
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    one time i was talking to a woman on the phone.
    she told me that she always insisted on using a rubber and that she would not have anal sex.

    the thing is, at that time i hadn't even invited her out.
    i was just talking.

    she scared me off, i never called back.

    some times it's not what you say but the way (and when) that you say it.
     
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