Black Relationships : Women keeping their last name

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  1. karmashines

    karmashines Banned MEMBER

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    To the ladies:

    Do you plan on keeping your last name when you get married? Why or why not?

    Or, would you do like I have done which is use the married name in public while using the maiden name for jobs and other financial purposes?

    To the gentlemen:

    Would you be offended if your wife decided to keep her last name, whether it's identifying with the maiden name completely or using it in conjuction with the married name?
     
  2. yaphet al-wynn

    yaphet al-wynn Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    In my opinion, not in the slightest. But only in this context-if she is known professionally by a maiden name or ex-married name in the entertainment or profession, like a doctor or attorney-if chose to do so. Changing makes no sense in that instance.
     
  3. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    My wife has a hyphenated last name, as do my children. I suggested this before she asked, because unlike most African Americans, my wife has her “original” African surname. I felt it appropriate for both my wife to keep this name, but my children also. They will know the full history, culture, and customs of at least ½ of their ancestory.
     
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    Radical Faith Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Family

    My wife uses her maiden name as her middle names. This is done for credit identity. Women have that advantage when they marry. As for gaining my last name, that is a must. Unlike most movie stars traditionally a man should bring a woman into his life creating their family. In my opinion this can not be done when both man and woman stand apart as separate entities. That just me and I'm admittedly opinionated.


    Peace
     
  5. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

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    i want my husband(s) to take my last name ... :wink:

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    Nisa Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I think the name should be hyphenated.. its the connection of both..without losing yourself or him..both of em together..in unity.
     
  7. indya

    indya Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I don't see a reason for hyphenated last names. They're a pain when trying to file medical records. I had no issues with changing my name when I got married.

    If anything ever happened to my husband and I remarried, I probably wouldn't change my name because I want to have the same last name as my children.
     
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    triniti424 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    :lol: Destee mae smh what are we gon do with you :lol:
     
  9. Ralfa'il

    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I wouldn't mind her using her maiden name in conjuction with mine, but to deny my name all together??

    Haaaaaaiiiiiiillll no!
     
  10. Napkaboom

    Napkaboom Member MEMBER

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    I don't know about changing my name if I ever get married. I like the idea of my future husband and I coming up with a new name of our choosing to use. I don't know what my chances of finding a man willing to do that are....
     
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