As for what I wanted to express I did not intend to discourage that alternative or set that tone... We should be optimistic
I think we are each on a journey. Even the most miserable people have friends and support one another though many other things about them are not quite the way they would like and they get along good for the most part because they resonate with one another so there is always someone for everyone but we just have to find our link I'll say. I don't think collaborating is IMPOSSIBLE because we are different but it is something women in that situation have to truly consider and take precaution with because it can make matters much worse.
I don't feel women will always be looking for love in all the wrong places. I finally realized that I need to focus on loving myself and that led to other actualizations. If we want a compatible mate it will be possible, I think only when love is emanated from within...and when we decide we "have" to know ourselves and stop looking everywhere else
but in ourselves.
Sometimes it happens that a caring soul takes the time to reach out and engage with someone who needs healing and show them that someone does care about and love them despite their challenges in life and always will because we are one. People have been traumatized so much sometimes not beyond hope as you said but into a place where they are afraid to ask for help; they feel people will be harsh with them, I have seen it here... so sometimes it takes those of us who are healers to set the tone and start a relationship/friendship/ i.e mentor whatever lol with someone that we can possibly help and be a positive influence in their life. I believe there is always hope and it is always worth it