Black People : Women and Children Homeless

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  1. Feather

    Feather Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    There are many women who are products of domestic violence and their children. Our mothers don't teach us who to love and what type of man deserves our love and some of us end up choosing the wrong man again and again!:) Clarification "our" meaning women who did not have a loving healthy mother daughter relationship and find themselves in these situations.

    A big effect of slavery, the model of a good strong man to identify with who shows her what love is and she knows what to seek and what is it's opposite.

    A lot of us cannot turn to family for support. Strangers are nice to us then our own families smh. How do we reverse this. where do these women start. They are tossed from shelter to shelter with no stability to get on their feet. Their kids are in and out of schools. They are made to room with other women squished sometimes in small rooms that are difficult to live in because they don't have privacy. Some of these places are very hectic and the people that work there treat the women like trauma patients hi and goodbye often it's just a job to them. They have laws that work against the people that need help that make living there stressful for the kids and the mother.

    Where can women whom need help getting on their feet go who are in dysfunctional circumstances as a result of domestic violence? I have been in this situation before and I think of all the women still going through it and their children. The system is not helping them it is teaching them to be dependent overall.
     
  2. Feather

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    and if we care about our women, because if they don't exist then there won't be any of us, why do they have to go to churches and gov. shelters seeking aid and get oppressed in the illusion mercy and help?
     
  3. Shikamaru

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    Women could setup private networks and work together.

    For example, say two or more women with children work together to acquire a house for communal living. Expenses could be shared. Buying food in bulk will provide savings along with all the food necessary for the women and children.

    Those women could also work together by providing their unique gifts and specializations to the benefit of all members.

    Another example, assume that one woman is expert in computers. She could provide help to the others with regard as to which computers to buy, what operating system to use, what broadband service to acquire, etc.

    I would think women are a bit more likely to work together than men would be, but that is my opinion (and bias).
     
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    I agree too when i was in a shelter this was my plan get a place together and provide childcare for one another while the other works. It was difficult though because everyone isn't ethical, reasonable or has respect for other people. you run into all kinds of characters so this is a challenge.
     
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    Really what is needed is strong autonomous communities so that we can take care of our own.This is what Imam Jamil was trying to do for the Muslims.

    The homeless and domestic abuse issues can be strongly minimize when we get serious and stop running from what God has ordain for men and women and start running to what he has ordain for us and striving our upmost to live it.
    How husbands should treat their wives and children,how wives should treat husbands and children and children should treat their parents etc.etc.. EVERYTHING has been laid out for us.It's up to us to return to that.

    There is a WAR going on against the family and we have to wake up.
     
  6. Shikamaru

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    These are common challenges of running an organization or managing people :).
     
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    This is true. Families are organizations. Organizations from corporations to governments to families are all out here competing for resources.
     
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    That would only create division and more chaos, what needs to happen both so called Black men and Black women needs to wake and re-educate themselves. Our community isn't going anywhere as long as people remain, if such a network is going to be built it has to consists of Black men and Black women because there are Black men homeless as well, this is a community issue not just women and children,.
     
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    A woman with children has neither the time nor the obligation to wait on a man or men to get their act together.

    A person, man or woman, has to do what it takes to take care of their interests for no one else is truly vested in their best interest like one's self.

    Besides, women seem quite capable of organizing amongst themselves. Women should use their strengths and gifts to take care of themselves and children.

    Sure ... what you are suggesting can take place in tandem, but biological imperatives and physical needs are a priority.
     
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    I understand what you are saying, but isn't putting a woman organization to take care of this problem or as you put it get their act together take time as well? Unless you are saying our men are all totally oblivious of any sense of responsibility to help solve such a major issue in the community.

    I would like to ask you why are you putting Black men and Black women as two separate different group of people? Aren't they a unit? from what I read from this thread, the women didn't just get the children on their own, men have contributed to the problems, why can't they also be part of the solution?


    I understand what you are saying, but I am not questioning women's ability to organize as there are many women organizations everywhere. But the problem that you are talking about is family structured one. The best way to solve it is not with women organizing to take care of other women only, but this should be a community resolved problem. the Fact is our women need to get their act together as well, and stop sleeping with irresponsible men that will leave homeless with children, and that also my friend is going to take time.
     
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