Black Relationships : Will tha REAL black man please stand up?

In the Spirit of Sankofa!

Sigh....

I dont even know where I am going with this thread... I just want a real brotha man out here, to identify himself...I mean, do I need to break out a black light to see him or somethin'?

Sigh again....

Why is it that the image of our black men, is SO POOR in this country? I mean, I ask myself this question...and I certainly dont mean to offend tha intelligent brothas here on destee.

Maybe I need a Destee Man in my life, ya think?

I mean, WHAT is going on with our black relationships? WHY are they filled with such DRAMA....WHY are our black men, looked down upon and WHAT can we do about it?

and please...if you disagree with this thread, then keep it movin, cas I aint tryin to hear it. I live in REALITY.




sweet apple*pie,

You are speaking truth to power! Da Street So’Ja is very on point. Beginning here, Destee.com, we can touch many of our People. This ICON is the conduit to that end you desire. Charity begins at Home and this is our Home/Community. Your mind is so beautiful, don’t ever change! But try this, look more for the positive and accent the positive. In other words, give credit where it is due, and before you know it; a fire catches and burns. We are attempting to love one another here, it catches and transfers to our families, and continues to grow.

The term I’m looking for is Optimism. And not so much Pessimism. Our words ring loud daily, through the beautiful poetry we write, etc...Take my Son for instance, his daily task is to tell others about the Love he witnesses here, and many are beginning to come this way, and are tuning in. We must maintain what Destee has laid out........and that is Love, Respect for the Community.

Please don ‘t take this as a lecture, just the Clarion Call for the truth you Speak...I love you too!

 
To be farely Honest with you all, my brothas and sistas, we as black women have to ask our selves, what are we doing to contribute to brothas that do us wrong? No man can do to you what you don't allow him to do unless he has a gun to your head or is using physical force. Other than that, we can not blame black men for doing to us what we have helped accustom them to do to us.

Come on sistas, we spoil our men, we allow them to play games with us. We don't let them know that we are not playing with them until it is to late.

We are the mothers, the first women in their lives and their experience with us plants the seed for how they will treat the women they have relationships with.


It takes two, it is not just the black man, it is us black women as well.

Don't get mad because if we want a solution to the problem, let's keep it all the way real and if the shoe fits wear it.
 
on the one hand, they say that they are the head of the household and that they lay down the law.

but on the other, they'll acknowledge the fact that there are too many households run by single mothers by saying that any problems in the family are due to the way that women raise boys.

but where are the out front national programs that teach young boys and girls how a man is suppose to act with regard to sticking around and raising children right?

does the "fault" fall on both, neither or one or t'other?

frankly, the "blame game" needs to die while both of us get together and spell out just what it is that would make it all work right.

To be farely Honest with you all, my brothas and sistas, we as black women have to ask our selves, what are we doing to contribute to brothas that do us wrong? No man can do to you what you don't allow him to do unless he has a gun to your head or is using physical force. Other than that, we can not blame black men for doing to us what we have helped accustom them to do to us.

Come on sistas, we spoil our men, we allow them to play games with us. We don't let them know that we are not playing with them until it is to late.

We are the mothers, the first women in their lives and their experience with us plants the seed for how they will treat the women they have relationships with.


It takes two, it is not just the black man, it is us black women as well.

Don't get mad because if we want a solution to the problem, let's keep it all the way real and if the shoe fits wear it.
 

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