Black Relationships : WIFEY OR DOWN BOTTOM?

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  1. nikknikk19

    nikknikk19 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    WIFEY OR DOWN *** BOTTOM?

    So, when should a sista draw the line? How much hardship has to be endured to earn a brothas "potential"? Brothas want a sistah who can cook without much of an appetite. They want her to have a mean shoe game and be conservative with her money. They want her to be confident and assertive yet submissive. Brothas say they want a freak, but w/o the experience you know the "mileage"?You guys want nurturers, but don't want to feel babied.When do we stop giving? When do we stop waiting before moving in on the next brotha? How much time should be invested? How much money? Is there a limit on what should be scrificed to be with someone?Lastly, nice guys aren't guys who are only nice to you b/c they think you're going to be their girlfriend if they're doing nice things for you.
     
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    Mikha'el Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    the same can be said of women but since it isn't about us i cant speak on that

    but a woman as much as a man needs to find a balance with both....thats where communication comes in & you express any concerns you may have with what ya significant other is doing
     
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    nikknikk19 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    IDK

    IT'S LIKE THEY DON'T WANT YOU TO BE A SHERLOCK HOLMES BUT A MISS CLEO. NOT EVERY BROTHA IS GOING TO SPEAK UP THE FIRST TIME AROUND
     
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    Proverbs31Woman Be kinder than necessary! MEMBER

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    The first question is what do YOU want? Do you possess the same qualities you are seeking? Otherwise, what you have described is a boy growing into a man..he isn't there yet...the typical I want it all without any sacrifices...a MAN has been through enough trials in life to figure out that just as he has shortcomings, you do too..at the end of the day, he will embrace all of you..good bad and ugly..and appreciate your weaknesses realizing he compliments you and it makes him necessary.

    Invest enough time to discern his fiber..character..he speaks to you in so many ways, but you have to pay attention..it comes in bits and pieces. The big question is how much is he investing in you? Last, don't give too much too soon, if his foundation is messed up, you have nothing to build on.
     
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