Black Relationships : Wife makes more money than the husband.

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by mchinadoll, Feb 14, 2006.

  1. mchinadoll

    mchinadoll Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2003
    Messages:
    87
    Likes Received:
    0
    Occupation:
    Litigation Paralegal
    Location:
    Orlando, Florida
    Ratings:
    +0
    I recently read an article that was very interesting to me. The author stated that "Today, one in three women makes more money then her husband".

    Is this a problem in black relationships/marriages. If this is a problem for you or not please explain. Thank you.
     
  2. Tantrum

    Tantrum Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    2,965
    Likes Received:
    11
    Occupation:
    Pos Technical Support
    Location:
    Windy City
    Ratings:
    +12
    Mchinadoll
    Yo if my woman made more than me
    Im not really sure if i would have a problem with it
    I would want to better myself and get on her level
    I really only talk to woman that are on my financial level
    So to date someone aboe that would be cool to me
    I would get to her level and we make moves together
     
  3. IfUComeSoftly

    IfUComeSoftly Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Jul 23, 2003
    Messages:
    807
    Likes Received:
    12
    Occupation:
    PD for a Non Profit
    Location:
    i'ma peach
    Ratings:
    +12

    I don't think that it should be a problem. I would rather consult part time and make my family my first priority; however, once i finish my graduate studies it is totally possible that I will earn more than my significant other. my boyfriend even jokingly made the comment that he could be a house husband. i have no problem with that; he could even take the time to start a business if he so chooses.

    Neither person, man or woman, should 'throw' the fact that they are the bread winner in the other's face. As long as both adults are considerate and understanding.... why would there and should there be a problem?
     
  4. mchinadoll

    mchinadoll Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2003
    Messages:
    87
    Likes Received:
    0
    Occupation:
    Litigation Paralegal
    Location:
    Orlando, Florida
    Ratings:
    +0
    Tantrum and ifucomesoftly:

    It's no problem with me either. I am not sure who brings in the most money in my house. I work full time as a real estate paralegal and own my own mortgage business. I also have real estate that I receive rental income from monthly. My husband is a mail carrier, who also owns real estate which he rents out. So, depending on how hard I want to work, I can bring home more at any given month.

    We both do well enough to pay our bills, and who makes the most have not been an issue thus far. I just found the article interesting. They interviewed a few men and the men stated that it would probably be an issue.
     
  5. Riada

    Riada Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    May 14, 2005
    Messages:
    1,366
    Likes Received:
    18
    Ratings:
    +18
    It wouldn't be an issue with me if I made more money if my husband and I had "Equality" in the relationship.

    For ex. I hear some men talk about how they "HELP their wives out with the housework" or with the children, but I don't hear women say they help their husbands with the bills. They just pay some of the bills. My antennae always go up when I hear a man use that helping phrase because I know that the couple most likely doesn't have an "equal" relationship. In an equal relationship, one spouse doesn't "help" the other one. Each is simply doing their share.
     
  6. SAMURAI36

    SAMURAI36 Banned MEMBER

    Joined:
    Mar 3, 2005
    Messages:
    4,762
    Likes Received:
    232
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Bay Area
    Ratings:
    +234
    True indeed.
     
  7. Tantrum

    Tantrum Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    2,965
    Likes Received:
    11
    Occupation:
    Pos Technical Support
    Location:
    Windy City
    Ratings:
    +12
    Well put Sister
     
  8. mchinadoll

    mchinadoll Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2003
    Messages:
    87
    Likes Received:
    0
    Occupation:
    Litigation Paralegal
    Location:
    Orlando, Florida
    Ratings:
    +0

    I must agree.
     
  9. Kemetstry

    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

    Country:
    United States
    Joined:
    Feb 19, 2001
    Messages:
    20,932
    Likes Received:
    5,243
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    Chemist
    Location:
    Detroit
    Ratings:
    +6,122
    Actually...


    I believe that same study found that it is a problem for the female and usually leads to divorce in those cases
     
  10. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Jan 22, 2004
    Messages:
    3,756
    Likes Received:
    34
    Gender:
    Male
    Ratings:
    +34
    I wouldn't care. I've been in the situation before and it's not a big deal. I've also dated another woman that made more than me. It's all about how secure you are. I make enough to take care of business, so it's not like I'm homeless or jobless. She just happens to make more money than me, that's all. But I also think it depends a lot on how the woman acts regarding the issue. If she tries to belittle her man and make him feel less than a man, it will become an issue. Or if she's always bragging and throwing it in his face.
     
Loading...