The lying is over. For lots of women, the lying is what hurts more than the cheating itself. Dr. Laura Trice, a clinical coach and teacher, writes at the Huffington Post: “So, women often stay after an infidelity because they feel better not being lied to anymore and want to see if they can get back on track.” Children: Leaving a cheating husband on your own is one thing, but when children are involved, there are other lives to consider. “I do not know what is best for kids with regards to staying with a liar and a cheater,” Trice writes, explaining that, in some cases, it can be more painful for children to watch their parents struggle with infidelity than deal with divorce. Love and forgiveness: “The #1 reason why a man or woman stays with a spouse who has cheated is love,” relationship expert Dr. Karen Ruskin writes on her blog. “Feeling hurt and angry, experiencing betrayal, and the devastating emotional affect cheating has does not in and of itself take away the feeling of love for another. It does for some, but certainly not for all. Humans can be quite forgiving if we desire to be." Compartmentalization: Ruskin describes this as “the ability to separate the bad ‘behavior’ from the man as a whole.” Fear of failure: Many women simply fear the unknown, so they stick with their men, says Ruskin. The woman may not be able to imagine what life could be like without her husband .