My boyfriend and I recently broke up because I expressed my feelings towards him of how he doesn't make me feel appreciated. He lives in a condemned house, with no running water, no functional kitchen or bathroom. There are holes in the walls, the floors are ruined, no gas, bad electrical wiring, holes in the roof and all kinds of rodents living there. I've been allowing him to practically live at my place. He was there everyday, and had moved just about all of his cloths there. I had begun to feel frustrated because I would often catch him on the phone calling and texting other women and I found out last week that he slept with a friend of friend a month ago. (I don't know the girl personally). When I asked him to end that relationship he told me that I was being too controlling. Being the kind hearted person that I am I told him that we were going to work through this together but it was like a negotiation for him to agree to stop seeing this other woman. After all of that he agreed to give up the condemned house and move in completely. He came in one night and borrowed $25 from me went to his house to get some more of his things and then came back in without saying a word to me and went to sleep on the couch. When I asked him why he was sleeping on the couch he said he was there because I had complained of feeling sore because I went running earlier that day and he didn't want to injure by sleeping next to me. I knew that was bull****. I told him he wasn't going to injure me by sleeping next to me because I had sore muscles. He said fine I'll be in in a minute. I went back to bed and 20 minutes later he still didn't come to bed. When I asked again, he said why can't I just follow instructions. I was just trying to see what was wrong and we got into this big argument. We made up, he eventually came to bed and despite my soreness we had sex. He didn't come back the next day and when I called he had attitude with me. He then didn't call me for the next three days, even after I left him message saying I had to go to the emergency room, which I did, for a pulled muscle. I got frustrated because he often ignores my phone calls, never responds to my voice messages, text messages, or emails. Everything I've done I've done out of the kindness of my heart and really wasn't expecting anything in return, but it would've been nice to feel appreciated. I got upset when he ignored and didn't return yet another phone call, so I sent him a text message letting him no how I felt, and told him that if he didn't want to be here that he didn't have to be. He responded 3 hours later and then came and got his things. I was devestated that he opted to leave rather than work things out. He called right after he left and asked if he could pause our relationship for a while. I didn't think it was fair that he wanted to take a break and at first I was reluctantly to agree to that. I told him he had to either be there or leave and he said then he'd leave but after us talking all night, I agreed to let him take a pause. I love him so much, but why is it that's it's so hard for some men to act like a appreciate a woman?