- Feb 26, 2005
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Riada said:Well, I’m glad that James told the truth, although it may have annoyed me.
Just like he doesn’t cut a sista slack when she’s flabby, I don’t cut a man slack either. If he doesn’t come correct to me in the ways that are important to me, then he can keep on steppin.’
The 44 year old boyfriend I had when I was 19 definitely did not look, facially or bodywise, like he was in his 20s or 30s. He looked his age which was around my father’s age, but he was a nice man—and very knowledgeable. In general, I judge men by their interior, not their exterior. You can miss some truly wonderful people judging books by their covers, so to speak. I may have a preference but I would never allow a person’s appearance (unless they’re grotesque) to keep me from getting to know them or having a full relationship with them, romantic or otherwise. I can just imagine how much I would miss out on if I were to go through life doing that
Society makes it pretty clear how much it hates women who are overweight or older than 18-35. This is why dieting and facial cream industries make millions every year. A middle-aged overweight black woman doesn't need Jamesfrmphilly to not cut her slack... society and the media will do enough of a job letting her know how inferior she is.
There is also hypocrisy when one says to consider a certain demographic of a person that they themselves don't want to date.