Yes, I agree that society doesn't need James' help. Maybe it was just wishful thinking on my part that just maybe the men on Destee were a new breed.
Many of the brothas on here talk about how a sista has power and we need to use it, especially when it comes to choosing a “good” man. I’m just realizing too that they’re talking about the sistas in the 18-35 year old range, for the most part. What about the sista who is 45, 55, 65, 75? We sistas are all going to be that age at one point. Women of that age want love, sex, companionship just as much as younger women and they can probably appreciate these things even more than a younger woman. There are a lotta sistas in that age range now that we know and care about.
If most brothas shun the 45 or 55 year old and older sista who they figure has lost her “grip” (heat, moisture, firmness, etc.), then who is she supposed to be with? Where is the “good” man for her if most men in her age group are looking for women under 35?
Why is a woman good only for her firm body and for what’s between her legs? Whatever happened to loyalty, wisdom, fidelity, dependability, maturity, etc. Brothas have to admit that these are traits more likely to be found in an older more settled woman.
My girlfriend’s mother who was about 60-something was going with this white man around her age and everybody was talking about her for doing that. And there’s this other older sista I know who is married to this older white man. In both of these cases, I wondered why these sistas hadn't found themselves a Black man. Did these older sistas already know what some of the brothas are sayin here now?