Black People : Why don't we take-in our own kids?

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  1. skuderjaymes

    skuderjaymes Contextualizer Synthesizer MEMBER

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    I know why the foster care system is full of our children. I know about the
    weapons formed against us.. there are plenty of threads on this site and others
    about just that. This thread is not about that.. This thread is about us. About
    our reaction to the discharge of those weapons. it's about why our children
    stay there in that system.. it's about why they aren't taken in and cared for by
    those that are able. Why aren't they also willing?

    Why don't black families on any large scale take in our children?
     
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    I don't think this is a valid question in a society where abortion is legal.
     
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    What does that mean?
     
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    I've been told once upon a time from persons familiar with the system that they/we do. Apparently, one of four major issues are (or have) occurring:

    1. There have been deliberate efforts to shift Black children out of Black (positive) homes both to assimilate them and to keep money in the system.

    2. There are colorist black folks who go in only selecting light/mixed children to care for/adopt. Naturally, who will get left behind in that?

    3. There are Black folks who DO take in Black children and care for them well, so you have to be careful that the statistics/info. you get is not just the typical, 'we hate and reject us' propaganda.

    4. There are black folks who do it solely for the money, so many wind up back in there perhaps more often than need be.



     
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    I think some men have an aversion to "raising another man's child" esp. if that child is male.
    maybe they're more concerned about family name/genes than women...
     
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    I have an aversion to women that have children. :tongue:
     
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    Typically black parents like to maintain the parental sovereignty as much as possible and the foster system does not allow for that! Too much in your business, but don't count out the millions of kids who are placed with relatives though, we at least used to tend to look out for our own. Why are so many black children in the foster care system, could it be related to the ever growing prison system?
     
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    Many can't take care of their own children.

    And their aren't many people in this world who wouldn't rather have their own.

    I don't believe the percentages of
    People super well off or unable to have their own is real high.
     
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    I have to disagree with this. My spouse is a stepfather who raised my son from the age of nine, my son is a stepfather to two children. Stepfathers/parents are not recognized enough. In my circle I'm aware of stepfathers raising another mans child equal to that of the biological parent.
     
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